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Well, Offenderman has been getting really popular hasn't he? certainly been a pretty awesome thing to have happened, but it has come with a number of downside's.

Primary of which being that it's making it increasingly hard to chat with all you newcomers to the fandom :dummy:

So to help deal with this, i'd like as many of you as possible to try to ask your question's and have whatever conversations you'd like to have with me here, where I promise to answer you at least once.


So ask away :iconblushingplz:

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Believe in the me who believes in you!


indiana jones more like fedora the explorer



do you ever want to gently float up to someone and whisper “this isn’t a debate; i am actually educated on the subject and i’m telling you you’re wrong”



“WATCH THIS THING SO I CAN YELL ABOUT IT AND YOU’LL UNDERSTAND AND YELL WITH ME MAYBE PLEASE”


   So I just woke up and my first thought was “what if in the four horsemen of the apocalypse, pestilence was one of those anti-vax moms?”
--quite frankly the four white suburban soccer-moms of the apocalypse would scare me way more


I have an electric car, so to make up for the lack of engine rumble I have a friend mimicking the sounds on his trombone.



   it really pisses me off how easy it is to get sad and then how long and hard it is to get happy again like what the fuck man thats not fair



peekaboo is essentially just making fun of babies for not understanding object permanence
#i’ve made fun of babies for less


Legit, ALL my fans try to hit on me, or at least that’s what I assume when they’re saying terrible things about me. I just tell them “You’re just mad because you want all THIS, but can’t have it” as I gesture luridly at my stomach and genital territory and also my sex-knees.
Yes, it’s tiresome, but I think I’d miss it if it were any different.-johan vasques


tumblr’s “you know he dead” and 4chan’s “did he died” are good examples of convergent meme evolution, in which two memes have evolved to fill similar linguistic niches in separate locations


“real woman don’t…” NO! there is no wrong way to have a body!



I AM SO MAD AT YOU!
Also I am sleeping over Thursday
#true friends


an axe to the back is not a good comeback.



   When customers ask how I’m doing I generally reply with “can’t complain” because they think I’m doing alright but literally I can’t complain I’ll get fired



The most dangerous thing society teaches boys and men, especially white boys and men, is that their emotions are objective logic and reason and that anyone who disagrees is being irrational.


   Friendly reminder that to a lot of people, proper nutrition is a luxury.


it’s scary how many people think they want to die when really they want to start living

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       The public’s version of couples showering together is so misleading.

       Here’s a list of things i’ve ACTUALLY done in the shower with my boyfriend :

       • sang and harmonized parts to centuries by fall out boy
       • reenacted a scene from the grudge and pretended that my hair was suffocating him
       • dropped baby oil in the shower and both of us ate shit on the shower floor
       • had a full on debate on whether or not Harry Potter truly belonged gryffindor or slytherin house
       • accidentally squirted him with soap in his eyes and attempted to make it feel better by spraying him full blast in the face with the shower head

       What we haven’t done in the shower:
       • sex

   The only reason why I’m mad that this has notes is my boyfriend found out about this and we started arguing about the Harry Potter thing again.

*passionate yelling*
Me: THERE ARE PEOPLE DYING, AUSTIN.
boyfriend: THE SORTING HAT IS NEVER WRONG


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       is there a term for cockblock when two ppl with vaginas are involved??

 -----  clitoris prohibitus

Sounds like a fucking spell from harry potter

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   When men say, “I only fuck girls with tight pussies.”

   Do you know what a tight pussy is?

   An un-aroused pussy.

  Your sex game weak.

   Bye.
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   Woman:I'm smart
   Patriarchy:Well you're probably ugly then
   Woman:I'm creative
   Patriarchy:You mean unattractive right?
   Woman:I have all these incredible accomplishments
   Patriarchy:Yeah but look how ugly you looked doing them
   Woman:I have value
   Patriarchy:Not if you're ugly lol
   Woman:I'm conventionally-attractive & posted selfies on my blog
   Patriarchy:I'm so sick of these empty-headed chicks only caring about their looks. Just because you are attractive and get attention from men doesn't mean you are special or deserve respect. Why don't you read a book or do something productive with your life you dumb slut

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   When you look at the general advice given to women by women on how to deal with their men, it’s always “tricks” and “ways” to get him to understand some basic shit about relationships.

   Like they always blame men’s lack of effort to men being “simple” and “kinda dumb” and that you have to spell everything out for them. Are they children?

   Isn’t it exhausting dealing with a grown man who needs to explicitly be told that he needs to put more effort to show his love and appreciation? What kind of relationship is it if you have to trick your man into doing things for you and constantly remind him of everything?

   Why do women have to grovel and pull out minimum effort from men and continue to be satisfied with childlike men who don’t take responsibility or take your emotions seriously? Why do women have to burn themselves to mold them into better men?
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“I did this radio show and the deejay asks me, ‘What if you woke up tomorrow and you were beautiful?’
What do you mean ‘what if’?
He said, ‘What if you woke up and you were blonde and you had blue eyes and you were 5’11 and you weighed 100 pounds and you were beautiful? What would you do?’
And I said, ‘Well, I probably wouldn’t get up ‘cause I’d be too weak to stand.’
And I felt very sorry for him, ‘cause if that’s the only kind if person that you think is beautiful, you must not see very much beauty in the world.
And I think everybody is beautiful. And if you don’t think that I am beautiful, you are missing out. Because I am so beautiful.”

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   it’s so wild how black youth aren’t allowed to have rebellious phases because it’s assumed once we display any sort of criminal behavior that’s all we’re ever going to amount to
   meanwhile white kids damn near be doing 5 stars in grand theft auto shit and it’s chalked up to teen angst instead of genetics
   it’s not fair and I hate it
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   accidentally being racist is still being racist.. being racist because you didn’t know or didn’t understand is still being racist
Seriously.  Like if you elbowed someone by accident you’d know to apologize.  Intent doesn’t absolve you of hurting others.
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   My favorite is that story every white person has that’s like, “My friend didn’t get into her dream school because they took a black guy with a lower GPA instead.” As though they were in the admissions office and heard the admissions officers going, “Well, there’s one spot left, and we have to choose between this brilliant white girl or this black idi*t. I guess we’ll choose the black guy, because Affirmative Action means we have to!” They don’t know their friend’s exact GPA or that of the person who “got in instead,” or if they applied to the same program, or if one had a lower GPA but better test scores or extracurriculars or volunteer hours or personal statement, or if the other was a legacy. All they know is, “My white friend got rejected, but there are black people at the school,” and they see their white friends as being inherently smarter and more worthy of an education, so they assume automatically that the black people there are unqualified and were unfairly accepted.

It is always so transparently racist when people are against affirmative action in universities. They will write long ass thinkpieces about how colorblind admissions policies are more “equal” but they will never say anything about recruited athletes or legacy students. If this was actually an issue about “equality” they would show just as much vitriol towards them, but they don’t. Why? Because complaints about the unfairness of affirmative action are just a smokescreen for bias.
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   do men have resting bitch faces as well or do they not have negative characteristics ascribed to them for putting on a neutral rather than a deliriously happy facial expression

Yes, Black men in majority white spaces do. If I don’t smile every single second of the day my coworkers become in intimidated and start asking me what’s wrong, telling me to smile, make jokes about how I’m trying to be a thug/act hard, why am I angry, etc. And it’s not just white men at my job God FORBID I my large Black ass makes a white girl feel threaten because I’m sitting down with a neutral expression.

I’m not trying to take this post away from women and make it about Black men but I want to point out that wether it’s patriarchy or white supremacy; those who feel as if they have power over you HATE to see you not smile. They are so used to people like you smiling to gain their approval that when you don’t there’s a cognitive dissonance that makes them extremely uncomfortable.

That’s why “angry Black women” is a thing. They have to put on a smile for everyone (yes even feminist white women) or we all get uncomfortable.
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“Naw, the goal isn’t to make you feel bad. Having privilege isn’t the problem, everyone has privilege! Myself included! But understanding your privilege is the first step in working towards equality for everyone.

Privilege doesn’t mean you’ve never had to struggle or had everything handed to you. It just means there are some things you won’t experience because of who you are. For example, I’m a black woman, but I’m also straight. So there are things I’ll never experience because I’m not LGBTQ. That doesn’t mean I don’t have challenges as a woman or as a black woman, it just means they’re different from those in the LGBTQ community.

Same goes for you, no matter what background you are. No one is trying to make you feel bad. In fact it’s the exact opposite! The goal is to get you thinking about how who you are influences what you do and don’t experience so you can better support others who face inequalities that you don’t. Hope that clears things up!”
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   the real punchline is that when you try to explain to cis people that cisphobia doesn’t exist because people making mean jokes on the internet is not the same as being barred from employment, housing, and necessary medical care, and facing harassment and violence on the streets, they will actually fucking make up stories about those things happening to them instead of admitting that transphobia is actually a million times more legitimate of a problem than cisphobia will ever be.

   the real punchline is that cis people are so desperate for reasons to hate us that they’ll believe obviously made up stories instead of thinking critically about cissexism in society for two fucking seconds.

   the real punchline is that cis people are looking for any fucking excuse they can get to make us look bad enough that they don’t have to feel guilty for not giving a shit when trans people are murdered in the streets.
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   “If more girls wanted to be scientists, there would be more female scientists”

   *takes a deep breath* WE LIVE IN A SOCIETY THAT ACTIVELY DISCOURAGES FEMALE INTELLIGENCE BY PAINTING IT AS A NON FEMININE TRAIT AND SETS UP MALES TO BE IN POSITIONS OF ACADEMIC SUPERIORITY DESPITE THERE BEING NO CORRELATION BETWEEN GENDER AND ACADEMIC ABILITY thank you for your time
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Furiosa isn’t the female action hero we’re used to. Furiosa doesn’t have a dad who taught her boxing or five brothers who taught her how to fix cars. Furiosa wasn’t a tomboy growing up, who preferred to play with the boys. Furiosa isn’t avenging the murder of her husband/brother/father or hunting down a rapist.

Furiosa comes from a community of women. She was raised by women. She works her way up through enemy ranks until she’s in a position to  rescue women. Furiosa is here for women, she is here with women, and she is here because of women. Her rage, her ruthlessness, her courage – these are all things she learned from women, and from being a woman

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   i’m not even sure what sexual attraction really feels like

   for me it’s something i think happened to me maybe once or twice, and only in a relationship.

   people talk about others they find sexy and i never see it. aesthetically pleasing yes, but sexually attractive? does not compute

   sex is something that i could do, if i wanted, but i could live without it

   i like pretty people. i like kissing pretty people. i like intimacy, but sexual intimacy isn’t something i need or want

   people talk about how they can’t go ‘without’ for more than a week. i’ve been ‘without’ for over three years and i never think about it

   i like writing smut. i like drawing smut. neither make me less asexual

   i get more fulfilment from good food than i ever did from sex

   people talk about asexuals as if they’re naive and innocent babies. i’m an adult. i know what sex is. i just don’t care about it.

   i’m not weird, broken, or wrong. just asexual.
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The idea of women as innately “nurturing” is a problem.

Women are expected to be “nurturing” and expend vast amounts of energy on being emotionally supportive toward men, while men are expected to ignore others’ emotional needs, fail to adress their own, and depend on women to do the emotional work in a relationship.

Emotional labour includes things like: listening to someone talk about his day and being emotionally supportive when he talks about his problems, encouraging him to go to the doctor when necessary, being the primary resolver of conflicts in the relationship, both between the two of them and with people outside the family unit, etc., etc.

When girls are very small we are taught to be quiet, to listen well, to be supportive, to put others’ needs first. This training continues into adulthood, while at the same time boys are expected to be loud, careless with each others’ feelings and not to process their own in a healthy way. Through adolesence and adulthood these pressures increase.

Girls and women who aren’t adept at or invested in emotional labour are treated as cold, heartless, and self-absorbed, while men who perform the bare minimum of emotional labour are considered very sensitive and men who perform the amount of emotional labour expected of women are considered emasculated.

This social pressure is enforced through media also. Stories featuring both men and women frequently stress the importance of women doing emotional labour while portraying men as being incapable of or uninterested in doing emotional labour. When media does portray men doing emotional labour, it’s often played for laughs, as the man is now emasculated, and therefore a target of derision.

This leaves women to see to our own emotional needs as well as to those of the men in our lives, praising women for being “nurturing” as though it’s an innate characteristic requiring no effort, and not expecting men to do it because “it doesn’t come naturally”.

Being “nurturing” is work, and it’s about time we shared the load.

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   I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: there is no marginalization, no intersection of identities, no violent oppression that men face and women don’t.
   Which is not to say that men aren’t oppressed in certain areas. We all know men face racism, ableism, poverty, homophobia, and other forms of structural oppression. Men aren’t immune to abuse, assault, self esteem issues, or anything of the like.
   But we have to recognize that women face all of these things with the additional burden of misogyny. We are doubly impacted.
   And so there is no need for posts specifying men. Posts like “Protect men who ____!” and “ _____ men are wonderful!” are unnecessary. You could just as easily say “Protect disabled people”, because as I said, there is NOTHING that men go through that people of other genders don’t.
   It’s almost comically ironic that people have been calling me homophobic, ableist, etc, towards men because of this objective statement. Do you really think, as a Jewish, Latin-Indigenous woman of color, as a lesbian, as a severely disabled / chronically ill woman, as a mentally ill woman, as a poor woman, as a survivor, as a woman who for years believed I was worthless- do you REALLY think I need to be reminded that there are men out there who are going through similar things? Do you really think I am systematically capable of oppressing men who are marginalized in similar ways (minus the misogyny) as me?


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The issue here is false equivalency, as in comparing two things that are not the same, and respectability, which boils down to only deeming certain voices and individuals valid and worthy of respect if they fit a model or type that is largely exclusionary of people who push against those archetypes.

That was wordy so I’ll break it down further.

The type of woman that society general deems acceptable is a polite, demure, feminine, pushover who rarely speaks her mind about the infinite daily oppressions that wear them down mentally, physically, emotionally. But even with this expectation, a woman doesn’t reap any significant benefits by adhering to this stereotype than one who doesn’t, but a woman who’s crass, loud, and bitter definite will suffer more in a world that rewards silence and suppression of one’s dissent of that expectation.

The type of man that society deems acceptable is one who has a control over their emotions, control over their home life, control in their work life, control control power control. A big strong man, even though this stereotype is riddled with issues, is one that comes with a natural advantage in our world. A man who feeds into this myth is rewarded in various ways but at the bare minimum most of society considers him a “normal” man for behaving like that.

People make so much to-do about the different socializations of trans men and trans women but these model identity stereotypes apply to them too.

A trans woman who’s loud, who’s bitter at the world for denying her what was rightfully hers, a trans woman who calls out transmisogyny and cissexism, a trans woman who refuses to pass, a trans woman who lives for herself, is punished for the same reasons that cis women are but their experiences are unique, not because of her transness, but because our world is very skilled at making you believe she and only she is the anomaly, versus MOST of the world that functions under toxic, dehumanizing belief systems.

So she suffers. She suffers significantly more than cis women.

But trans men should understand what they’re transitioning into…whether they transition or not. You’re transitioning into power. Trans-masculine folks in particular should understand that the minute you start “hiding” (looking to pass) your breasts, your voice, the softness of your face, the minute you abandon your girl-power culture for manhood, you are transitioning into that “natural” power advantage.

So when you say, “Don’t just protect trans men because they are hunky.
Don’t just protect trans men because they look “Just like a real man.”
Don’t just protect trans men because they look “man enough,” as a way to support trans men who don’t fit society’s “normal,” what you are ACTUALLY doing is reinforcing that power divide that exists among various genders.

There are already plenty of cis men who aren’t hunky, who resist tropes of “real manhood,” who have NEVER been the classic definition of “man enough” and to bring that into the trans community as a way to assuage the feelings of non-passing trans men, who may or may not be aware that no matter their dysphoria they are necessarily transitioning into power, you are reinforcing the fact that society rewards passing, hyper-masculine, medically transitioning trans men over pre/non-testocerone-taking, “feminine,” non-passing trans men or trans-masculine folks.

The reason respectability doesn’t function the same for trans men is because society rewards men for different things than women. Men can be loud, be crass, be aggressive, bitter, anything as long as they fit that toxic definition of manhood. Trans women who pass, trans women who aren’t loud and angry, will be rewarded by society for the same reasons cis women are, so respectability will translate the same across the femme-spectrum.

I know this can be difficult to understand but we have to drive the point home that our mutual struggles aren’t translatable. They just aren’t.

Trans men, for as far as society continues to define gender in such an absolute and disparate manner, will always be transitioning into power over non-men.

I am a trans-masculine person and my identity exists within the confines of society’s ideals and expectations as much as I am certain that I am an otherworldly creature stuck in this dimension. As a trans-masc person I have privileges that many femme-folks don’t have, but because I’m not hunky, not passing, not a “real man” or hairy-faced or whatever, society won’t give me the same privileges as a trans man who passes.

C’est la vie. But we shouldn’t celebrate trans mens’ ability to blend into a system of power that still murders trans women at a disproportionate rate and pretend like our struggles were ever interchangable.

They arent.

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Get a rat and put it in a cage and give it two water bottles. One is just water, and one is water laced with either heroin or cocaine. If you do that, the rat will almost always prefer the drugged water and almost always kill itself very quickly, right, within a couple of weeks. So there you go. It’s our theory of addiction.
Bruce comes along in the ’70s and said, “Well, hang on a minute. We’re putting the rat in an empty cage. It’s got nothing to do. Let’s try this a little bit differently.” So Bruce built Rat Park, and Rat Park is like heaven for rats. Everything your rat about town could want, it’s got in Rat Park. It’s got lovely food. It’s got sex. It’s got loads of other rats to be friends with. It’s got loads of colored balls. Everything your rat could want. And they’ve got both the water bottles. They’ve got the drugged water and the normal water.
But here’s the fascinating thing. In Rat Park, they don’t like the drugged water. They hardly use any of it. None of them ever overdose. None of them ever use in a way that looks like compulsion or addiction. There’s a really interesting human example I’ll tell you about in a minute, but what Bruce says is that shows that both the right-wing and left-wing theories of addiction are wrong. So the right-wing theory is it’s a moral failing, you’re a hedonist, you party too hard. The left-wing theory is it takes you over, your brain is hijacked. Bruce says it’s not your morality, it’s not your brain; it’s your cage. Addiction is largely an adaptation to your environment.
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We’ve created a society where significant numbers of our fellow citizens cannot bear to be present in their lives without being drugged, right? We’ve created a hyperconsumerist, hyperindividualist, isolated world that is, for a lot of people, much more like that first cage than it is like the bonded, connected cages that we need.
The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. And our whole society, the engine of our society, is geared towards making us connect with things. If you are not a good consumer capitalist citizen, if you’re spending your time bonding with the people around you and not buying stuff—in fact, we are trained from a very young age to focus our hopes and our dreams and our ambitions on things we can buy and consume. And drug addiction is really a subset of that.”

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“most homophobes are actually just closeted gay people!” translation: I don’t want straight people to be held accountable for their homophobic actions so I’m going to blame homophobia on gay people
yeah, i feel like this is linked to the phenomenon (which i hate) of straight people making gay jokes about homophobes. it’s like, “oh! you’re homophobic? y'know what an appropriate punishment would be? being gay! because being gay is terrible!”
And frankly, even if a homophobe is a closeted gay person, how is it funny to mock the degree of self-loathing necessary to be openly, fervently disgusted with something you secretly know you are?
That’s not some homophobe getting their comeuppance. It’s someone who was told they were an abomination so frequently they ended up saying it themselves, and that’s a fucking tragedy.

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   The thing is, I have never known an abuser who didn’t try to slander their victim. I have never known an abuser who did not claim that the abuse was “mutual”, or that they only “snapped” after being “provoked”, or that their victim is the REAL abuser and therefor “deserves” everything they said/did.

   And I understand that this makes things seem really complicated for bystanders and mutual friends etc when things fall apart, and it looks like two people are just accusing each other of abuse, but like, there are red flags to watch for, use your fucking critical thinking skills.

   I was broke, young, and about to be homeless (again) when I was “taken in” by an abuser and someone who enabled that abuse, and when I left they pre-emptively told everyone “well just so you know, she might say she was abused, but she’s crazy and has a victim complex so you can’t believe what she says”. Like who says that shit, you know? An abuser.

   Years later when I called out someone who had been emotionally abusive to me, their immediate response was to tell everyone that I was the REAL abuser. Their accusations came IMMEDIATELY after mine, and were obviously designed to discredit and silence me. Who responds to someone saying “I feel like you abused me” with “no, YOU abused ME!” and goes on to say abusive things and justify that with “well they deserve it”, who treats abuse like a competition that can be “won” by the person who shouts the right buzzwords loudly enough? An abuser.

   I have literally seen serial abusers sue their victims, because it was the only way to force their victims to engage with them again.

   And my point is NOT that it’s impossible to know the real truth in these situations, or even that it’s difficult.

   My point is that abusers will co-opt ANY system available to them to facilitate their abuse. That includes systems designed to support survivors. Abusers are THAT disgusting and vile. And usually, that invested in avoiding accountability by blaming their victim in any way they can.


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Why is an adult/child dating relationship automatically abuse?::


   As a teenager, you are growing and learning at a phenomenal pace. Month by month you are becoming savvier, wiser, more socially equipped. That rapid development continues into your 20s. So as a teenager, a big age gap is a REALLY big age gap, because you are learning and changing so much so quickly during that time.

   It’s not totally about “maturity” though - it’s about power. As you get older, younger people start to look up to you. They might trust you to know things you really don’t, because you’re older and you know how to say stuff convincingly.

   Getting older also means learning all the different ways people  pressure or manipulate each other. Most of us are still learning about this stuff into our 20s - even if we’re really smart and mature. Someone having a lot more of this knowledge than the person they’re dating means the power in the relationship is uneven, because the older person can pressure you in ways you can’t recognise or defend against.

   And I’m sure teenagers have noticed that if you get into a conflict with an adult, other people take the adult’s word over yours. Even if you’re right. Even if you need help.

   So if you date an adult, that person has power over you that, even if they don’t try to use it, really does effect how the relationship works. There’s no way to have a healthy relationship with that big a power difference, because you can’t make choices the adult doesn’t like without worrying about what they’ll think or do. You’ll end up in situations you’re uncomfortable with and not have the tools or social power you need to get out of them.

   The other piece is - adults who date teenagers are looking for something they can’t get in their usual dating pool. For most adults, dating a teenager wouldn’t even occur to them, because they understand how wrong it would be. Adults have our own groups of friends, our own ways to meet people our own age, and if an adult is flirting with kids they’re looking for something they can’t get from someone who’s old enough to catch on.

   The adults who seek out teenagers want someone they can pressure and manipulate. They’re looking for an abusive relationship, and like all abusers they’re really sneaky about it at first - but they have the added advantage of knowing tricks you haven’t had time to learn yet, as well as the advantage of being listened to when you won’t be.

   Every smart, mature kid feels older than their age at least some of the time. I know I did. But being really smart and really mature doesn’t make you an adult - having had years and years of being around other people and learning the little social things that you can’t get from books is part of it. Having the power of an adult - the freedom to come and go as you please, being listened to by the people around you - that’s the other part.
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   Not only is it just common sense that saying sex workers “sell our bodies” is a disgusting and harmful way to put “sell the sexual experience.”

   But you should also remember that that phrasing helps make it all right to literally murder us.

   You turn us into objects to be sold, and therefore you turn our killers into our owners, making our death at their hands perfectly acceptable.

   Please be more aware of how your words translate if you actually give a fuck about sex workers.
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   A lot of yall need to learn about the difference between oppression and horizontal aggression.

   Lesbians cannot oppress bisexual women because they do not have the structural power necessary to benefit from the subjugation of bisexual women

   Bisexual women cannot oppress lesbians because they do not have the structural power necessary to benefit from the subjugation of lesbians

   This doesn’t mean that lesbians can’t be biphobic/bisexuals can’t be lesbophobic. It does mean that neither has privilege over the other–the are both oppressed on the same axis.

   Horizontal aggression.
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If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now, for wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning- Vincent Van Gogh
you know what really gets my goat?
-el chupacabra
*x files theme plays



   Does something ever happen to you and you’re like, “this is it. This is how I become a super villain”


“Everybody can write; writers can’t do anything else.”


But it is not bravery; I have no choice. I wake up and live my life. Don’t you do the same?


do you ever get confused about whether something really happened or if it was just a really mundane dream


   Do you ever start bullshitting a paper, and then look over it halfway through and think, ’…Wait a minute, I could be onto something here.’
this is the definition of college.


Fill your heart with bees. If someone breaks your heart, then they have to deal with the bees.


what if 911 called you
I am not prepared for whatever type of emergency they’re going to throw at me


   People who respond to your weird facial expressions with equally weird facial expressions are the best kind of people
Also people who respond to your weird noises by precisely imitating your weird noises to echo the emotion


   My favorite kind of villains are the ones that you can understand. Not agree with, not like, but understand. You’re frightened by their actions in a really visceral way because you realize that, in the wrong circumstances, you might become a monster too.

   The scariest type of monsters are the ones that seem human and familiar.


   I love people who make me forget that I’m shy


My tinfoil hat is actually a tinfoil crown thank you very much


also if wilson has talked about science enough to alienate his own family imagine how much every poor sap with him on that island has heard about science




what if the lottery is an institution to catch time travelers?


If your family ever feels dysfunctional just remember that my parents got divorced and didn’t tell each other where they were moving to so they ended up moving in the same neighborhood and becoming neighbors


Thanks for the advice, terrifying butterfly demon


   My favorite genre is “starts out normal but then turns into really disturbing psychological horror”


I am three ounces of whoops ass.

 
 sun: makes the slightest show of light around the horizon
   every bird, ever: THE GLOWING HATE ORB HAS SHOWN ITS FACE, IT IS TIME TO SCREAM


I’m fairly certain the entire midwest is just a massive corn-pollen hallucination though
-Son I am from the Midwest and I’m fairly certain you are correct.


do you ever just ‘there’s probably something medically wrong with me but i’m just gonna ignore it and hope i don’t die’?


My 3rd grade teacher once told me to read the books that are the the most damaged on the outside because you can tell by the damage its been read by a lot of people, and there’s usually a great story on the inside.
This advice hasn’t failed me yet.



“Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness. I’ll choke you with the same hand I fed you with.”


“Some of us learn control, more or less by accident. The rest of us go all our lives not even understanding how it is possible, and blaming our failure on being born the wrong way.”


   I like to make people feel bad for me by telling them that I spent my last three birthdays in the hospital. I wasn’t sick or anything, but I don’t tell them that. I’m just a surgeon who likes making people feel bad for me.


even the best/most moral argument will be met with resistance if it is presented in a spiteful and immature way



talk street magic to me
drawing power from the metro lines
illusionists busking illegally, shimmering lights disintegrating as they run
plant mages tending tiny rooftop and windowbox gardens
elementary kids learning basic sigils on the playground
wixen taking a while to key into the magic in new cities when they move
alchemists dealing on the side to support their experiments
middleschoolers making friendship talismans and amulets for everyone
numerologists who’ll do your math homework for $5 or divine your fortune for $10
kids mass-texting luck and speed spells when their parties get broken up by the cops
Hell yeah, let’s talk about magic.
Like elementary kids learning silly (or inappropriate) charms from each other on the bus, the same way we learned our first swear words. Clapping games across the bus aisle, but with spells instead of rhymes.
Worrying that your friend is getting into dark magic, but not knowing how to talk to them about it. Intervention programs for kids abusing hexes and runes, because magic has given them control over something for once in their life, and they’re starting to make some dangerous choices.
Psychic teachers knowing when you’re cheating. Knowing when you’re having trouble with homework. Or at home. Knowing when you need tutoring or an AP course because you’re just not being challenged or a different teaching method because you can’t process what you’re learning in class no matter how hard you try, and the teacher tells you it’s okay, they know. They know.
Magic graffiti. Graffiti in wild places, and graffiti that vanishes when certain people roll by like the police. Or graffiti that only appears when the police walk by to insult them. Murals. Swirling, living murals on the sides of buildings. Murals that—if you listen closely—can be heard, not just seen.
In the evenings, kids hiding out in someone’s backyard or an alley passing around a joint and casting minor illusions to watch while high.
Chalk artists making works that are so realistic, they come to life off of the sidewalk.
One man bands in the park, with instruments floating around playing themselves.
Punk concerts in empty lots with amped out music and lights, but noise-cancelling spells and illusion hide them in plain sight from anyone outside of the lot.
Mediums predicting people in need, and making sure to be there at just the right moment to lend them a helping hand. “You seem upset, do you need to talk?” “Oh, you’re a dollar short? No, don’t put the milk back; I’ll cover you.” “I think your hair looks perfect today.” “You really ought to try taking your resume to this store. Trust me.”
Necromancers in forensics speaking with the dead to solve homicides and cold cases. Living lie detectors as beat cops and detectives and DEA agents.
Strangely cheap five star food diners that bake actual love into their apple pie, and they always know your dietary restrictions without being told.
Service golems in various sizes and shapes, making sure their magic users aren’t crowded, get medical attention, go where they need to, etc.They don’t get distracted, they can be hollow to hold things like medications, and in rare instances… they seem to develop loving attachment to their users despite not being alive.
Little old landladies who dabble in witchcraft brewing homeopathic remedies for people in their apartment complex.
Street magic is an amazing concept.


“Even if you get on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.”

                   OMG I already thought of some sort of premise:
                   In 1953 a certain laboratory on an undisclosed location developed a serum that could genetically modify humans, giving them enhanced speed, agility, strength, and brainpower.
                   Scientists found a way to modify the serum such that it could only activate itself in the presence of a Y chromosome, thus isolating the effects to men, mostly because of female discrimination at the time.
                   The serum was a success, and sales skyrocketed just a few weeks after its release.
                   What the developers did not anticipate, though, was the human body’s incapacity to handle the serum. The mental and physical over-exhaustion triggered a mental decay which starts out slow, but speeds up exponentially within a few months after usage of the serum. The brains of the users are left with only the most basic survival reflexes, transforming the users into strong, fast, agile, emotionless human shells, devouring any mobile life form in their path.
                   Bites from the affected individuals could place copies of the rogue serum into the bodies of the bitten, giving them the symptoms. Shortly after, the serum evolved into a sort of genetic virus, causing mental decay in just days. No one was safe. No one…
                   …except the women.
                   *cue in epic music*
               Can you imagine the shitstorm this game would cause. I’d laugh pretty hard.
               Would still play it though.  I just love the role reversal like the uninfected men would suddenly become this priceless commodity and would be told ‘no, no- stay at home and mind the kids, we can’t have you going out, it’s too dangerous,” and “What were you thinking trying to fix the car? Think of what could have happened! Take up knitting.”
       Wait, if it’s 1950s America, does that mean you’ll be able to kill zombie Joe McCarthy and zombie Richard Nixon in a boss battle?
   I wasn’t going to reblog this but holy shit. yasssss
Damn it people now you’ve got me all excited for a game that will never be made, especially when I started thinking of this little girl defending her dad and brother’s from a zombie attack… damn it.
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   I just want someone that wants me because they actually want me, not because I’m conveniently there


Fifty Shades of Spider-Man Angrily Squint Glaring from his Mask’



To all my teenage and younger followers...
Let me tell you some life lessons I have learned in my 24 years on this Earth.
1. Read the fine print. In every lease agreement, credit card application, and bill. Never take the information in large print as truth. The world is a place full of capitalist greed and people will try to swindle you for every dime you have.
2. A credit card very rarely makes things better. While suddenly having a couple thousand dollars to spend might sound amazing, keep in mind the fact that you’re going to have to pay that back and then some. Never get a card with an annual fee if you can avoid it- because even if you don’t use it, it’ll still cost you.
3. Set up automatic payments. You will forget payments, and that can cost you (literally) a great deal. Set up automatic online payments with reminders so that you know it’s coming up, but don’t have to worry about it.
4. In-Store credit cards are almost always terrible. Sears, Home Depot, Victoria’s Secret- all of them. They are usually packaged with fun deals like “get $50 off this purchase if you’re pre-approved!”. They fail to mention the 25% interest rate, annual fees, and the fact that it can only be used in that store.
5. Keep your receipts. Seriously! Just keep a folder in your car and one in your house and drop every receipt you get in them.  At the end of the month dump them out and go through them. You’ll be amazed at what your spending looks like when it’s splayed out in front of you.  It makes budgeting much easier when you see real numbers. These can also come in handy around tax time- you would be surprised at the things you can write off in certain situations.
6. Learn about income tax. Visit the IRS website and educate yourself! It sounds boring (and it freakin’ is) but in no way does high school prepare you for or teach you about taxes well enough to hold your own in the real world.
7. Claim as little as possible on your W4. When you start a new job, they always give you a W4 to fill out for tax information.  On line 5 of the form, it’ll ask how many allowances you want to claim. Now, claiming yourself may seem like a good idea because you get to keep more money on your paycheck- but it can also come back to bite you at the end of the year.  You may even end up paying in! On that same note, make sure your employer files your tax information correctly. I once ended up paying in $8,000 in taxes because my employer never had the IRS take taxes out of my checks! Whoops!
8. Start a savings fund. No matter how small it is! Even if you just put away $2 a week- it will eventually add up.  If you can, start a savings account that will earn you interest.
9. Save your paystubs! If you plan to buy a car or rent an apartment, they’re going to want to see them.
10. Write down the start and end dates of every job you have. Making a resume and filling out job applications will be much easier with this information.
11. Make a good resume and keep printed copies as well as a digital copy at all times.  There are many excellent resume writing resources online that can help you (heck, I can help you- I used to work in HR!) buff up your resume.  You never know when you might meet someone who can present you with an opportunity!
12. Never be afraid to ask for a raise or promotion.  If you are performing well and meeting or exceeding expectations- ask your supervisor for a raise or change of position that will pay more.  If you are aiming for a promotion, stroke the company’s ego, say something like “I would like the opportunity to prove my worth to the company and further my career with (         ).”
13. Debt collectors do not give up. They are a lot like the Terminator.  If you block their numbers or ignore their calls, they’ll find your family members or show up at your house. This is no joke. I have had hospital bill collectors call roommates, my parents, and even my dad once.  They are relentless and they do not care about your current situation or financial stability. They follow a script and expect you to pay up.  It’s hard not to panic when you get that first collections call- you definitely don’t feel in control of the situation. But remember, debt collectors are actually bound by many restrictions- they are barred from:
-Using abusive or obscene language. -Harassing you with repeated calls.-Calling before 8 a.m. or after 9 p.m. unless you agree. -Calling you at work if you have asked them to stop. -Talking to anyone but you or your attorney about the debt. -Misrepresenting the amount of your debt. -Falsely claiming to be an attorney or a law enforcement official. -Falsely claiming to be a credit bureau representative. -Threatening to sue unless they actually plan to take legal action. -Threatening to garnish wages or seize property unless they actually intend to do it.
Always ask for written information on the debt- tell them to send you a paper statement of the debt so that you can look it over and decide what to do. Offer to make payments that are within your financial means- if they try to bully you into making larger ones, tell them you are well aware that they’ve looked into your finances and should know what you are able to afford.
14. Get renters insurance. Better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it!
15. Take inventory of the things you own. If you own electronics, guns, or other expensive items, write down the serial numbers and take pictures of them in your house. That way, if there’s a break in, fire, or flash flood, you have documentation and data to provide to your insurance company.


A social construct is “real,” in the sense that it exists as a historical/material/social force, and also “fake,” in the sense that, despite its material impact, it has no logical basis, it’s just something the ruling class contrived to justify fucking the rest of us over.


“If you’re looking at someone and you’re telling them, ‘Oh, you’d be so pretty if X, Y, Z wasn’t happening’… then you don’t think they’re pretty. And, that’s not a compliment! And that’s not something that I fucking care about! So… Feel free to move on!”




   Destroy gender roles, not gender identity
THIS. THIS IS IT. THIS IS WHAT PEOPLE DONT UNDERSTAND.


   I feel like it makes sense to judge people based on how they treat everyone, and not just give them a free pass because they haven’t wronged you personally.


eurocentric beauty standards depress me.
and its not just the fair skin its the straight hair that isnt dense its the slender nose the non-brown eyes the flat stomach its fucking all of it


   When watching a show I don’t think ‘Well politically correctly there should be two more minorities’
 I’m thinking ‘This is suffocating, this isn’t what life is like, why do i not exist, why do my friends not exist, what the fuck is with this idealisation of one type of person?’



You cannot be disrespectful to service workers then turn around and be sweet to me. Literally couldn’t be less appealing. It’s more terrifying than a turn off  tbh.
All it does is show me you have a superiority complex and deep rooted classist tendencies. I’ve been a waitress, a barista and a sales associate, so your talking down to others just tells me at one point you would’ve talked down to me. This guy in the queue tried to buy me a coffee today, after ripping into the guy behind the counter about his skills and his job. Don’t care what people do for a living, if you don’t treat ‘em like (very important) people when you deal with them, we can’t be friends.
“A person who is nice to you but cruel to the waiter isn’t a nice person.”
I don’t understand how people don’t get this
It is terrifying. It means if you don’t adhere to their demands or if you make on little mistake, they can turn on you. I don’t deal with people who are nasty to others.




   Like, 90% of infomercial style products were designed by/for disabled people, but you wouldn’t know that, because there is no viable market for them. THey have to be marketted and sold to abled people just so that any money can be made of off them and so the people who actually need them will have access.
   I think snuggies are the one example almost everyone knows. They were invented for wheelchair users (Do you have any idea how hard it is to get a coat on and off of someone in a wheelchair? Cause it’s PRETTY FUCKIN HARD.) But now everyone just acts like they’re some ~quirky, white people thing~ and not A PRODUCT DESIGNED TO MAKE PEOPLES DAY TO DAY LIVES 10000X EASIER.
   But if at any point you were to take your head out of your own ass and go “Hey, who would a product like this benefit,” that would be really cool.
This makes informational make so much sense now.
Like… of course there’s no reason for that guy to knock over that bowl of chips. However, the person it was actually designed for has constant hand tremors that would make this pretty rad, but since we don’t want to show that in a commercial, here’s an able bodied guy who can’t remember how gravity works.
Shit. Those commercials suddenly get a lot less funny when you realize it’s pretty much just people ineptly trying to mimic disability.





just a friendly reminder that addiction forms through trauma and poverty. so next time you feel like shaming folks for doing drugs or not having enough to eat but enough to smoke, remind yourself of systems in place that derail peoples mental and physical health and be more compassionate about how you care for people with addictions.


shout out to everyone who was forced to internalize all their emotions growing up and now have a constant underlying anger that colors every part of their lives bc they never got to learn how to process their feelings



Its stupid when girls say they cant find a guy, yet they ignore me. It’s like saying you’re hungry when theres a hot dog on the ground outside.



If your feminism only benefits YOU you’re not a feminist, you’re just a self centered brat.



   I can’t believe how long it took me to realize that the “nagging wife” sitcom stereotype is literally just “useless husband is incapable of doing his share of the housework despite being repeatedly asked” framed to demonize the woman


   where are all the butch lesbian female action leads that straight feminists are so threatened by because i cant seem to find them but with how they insist on “girls can be badass AND feminine/straight too!!!!” they have to exist, surely
--lmao, careful now ur making too much sense…


“The friend zone devalues the very thing it references: friendship. Its view of sex suggests that platonic friendship is some sort of penalty box, rather than a relationship one should feel thankful and excited for.”


The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognising how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.


   people talking about “forced diversity” like characters being PoC or LGBT or disabled “for no reason” like, are people in real life PoC or LGBT or disabled for a reason? do these critics run up to people on the street like WHY ARE YOU BLACK?


   Y'all act like George W. Bush (who went to yale, harvard), Bill O'Reilly (who went to harvard), Glenn Beck (who went to yale), and Mitt Romney (who went to harvard), etc. are anomalies among prestigious universities.
   These people are not unintelligent; these people are not uneducated.
   Acquisition of higher education isn’t the same as not being willfully ignorant. You can be highly educated and say ignorant shit, it’s actually pretty common: hence this blog.
   Stop putting your faith in our education system to rid our society of systematic oppression. Higher education actively encourages oppression.
Furthermore, stop silencing people who haven’t attended universities when they’re talking about the oppression they face. It does not take higher education to speak on what one experiences.
It does not take a degree to speak out against oppression.


It’s a common mistake, when analysing sexism, to assume that ideas of men and women and of masculinity and femininity under the patriarchy are logical and consistent. They’re not.
The patriarchy is a system intent on keeping men in power in every aspect of life and at all cost. If it perceives something to be a threat to male dominance (no matter whether it is even a real threat to male dominance) it will pull any trick, no matter how illogical, to fight that.
If the patriarchy seems to behave illogical and inconsistent, that observation is probably correct.




DUDE SOCIAL FALLACYS

   There was a very interesting discussion going on in the comment section of the Captain Awkward column, “681: Consent Basics: It takes two to decide to be friends and only one to say “Nope!”” The answer was in response to a letter writer, whose boyfriend’s friend was being creepy and manipulative.

   It started out in reference to the Geek Social Fallacies, but apparently the idea of Dude Social Fallacies hit a bit of a sore spot for a lot of people. In the same way that we geeks recognize the GSFs, there are some things that men commonly do that are deeply manipulative, frustrating or threatening.

   Someone posted that there should be a column or master list, and since I’m all about feminism and lists, I thought I’d do one. Unless otherwise noted, all citations are from the above Captain Awkward column. In some cases I copied verbatim, in others I paraphrased, but I cited all ideas that weren’t specifically mine.

   Dude Social Fallacies can be roughly divided into three groups: fallacies about sex, fallacies about women’s behavior and fallacies about the man’s own behavior.

   1. ABOUT SEX

   1.1 Lesbians and bi women are always interested in a threeway with me and my girlfriend [The Awe Ritual]

   There are some straight men who genuinely believe that lesbians and bisexual women aren’t real—that they’re merely women who hate men or haven’t had sex with the right one yet. So, under this assumption, it seems quite reasonable to assume that all lesbians and bi women would be up for threeways. Because she can have sex with a lady, which is what she says she wants, but she gets the bonus of having sex with you, which is obviously what she secretly wants.

   This also assumes that because some women have certain male-typical desires (interest in having sex with women) that they also behave in male-typical ways (see other people as sex toys). I think to a lot of dudes, if a woman is interested in women, it’s unfathomable that she wouldn’t want to have sex the way he wants to—with anyone, at more or less any time, regardless of levels of mutual attraction.

   While I’ve met plenty of bi/lesbian women who did like threeways, but they did not like threeways with asshole strangers who treat them like a walking vagina.

   1.2 If you have done X sexual behavior before, either with me or with someone else, you are obligated to do it with me [meggiebea, Han Solo]

   Now, I know that most men don’t actually think their treating women this way is justified. I do think that they think if they whine and wheedle and manipulate someone enough, they’ll get their way.

   This includes a number of selfish assumptions on the part of men, as well as one major subfallacy. This is the first of many fallacies that only happens because men refuse to see women as real people. So, for example, a man might be angry at his current girlfriend because she doesn’t like something his ex-wife liked, or doesn’t like it a the same intensity [meggiebea]. This is especially pernicious in the case of things men believe women say they don’t want but secretly desire, such as being submissive or anal sex.

   Men also use this fallacy to police, restrict or manipulate their female partners, as they may believe that if a woman submits to one sexual activity, she will do that sexual activity with anyone who asks [thelittlepakeha]. Therefore, if his girlfriend consented to PIV with him, he must control her interactions with other men—otherwise she’ll just be jumping on dicks right and left! Interestingly, carriers of this fallacy also often believe that women have lower sex drives and are less interested in sex than men and yet simultaneously believe that once a woman has done something, she’ll do it with anyone. Pick one guys, you can’t have both.

   Men may also devalue women’s sexual agency by assuming that if she consents to an activity once, she’s required to do it again; she’s not allowed to try something once and then stop [Adrian]. In particularly bad cases, the sense of injustice men feel can also make them feel justified in using violence against women. At its less harmful levels, it can make men feel justified in manipulating their girlfriends, or attempting the activity when she can’t defend herself, such when she’s asleep or drunk.

   1.2.1 There is a hierarchy of sexy things. If a woman consents to one level of sexy thing, that implies consent to all lower levels of sexy things. (eg, somebody who consents to play at 3rd base automatically consents to play at 1st and 2nd, whether she says so or not.) [Adrian]

   I included this as a subfallacy because I feel it’s particularly pernicious and also because it’s the sort of thought you only get in a society that sees sex activities as a way to keep score.

   In actuality, there’s no “score” system in sex. Vaginal sex is not “better” sex than oral sex, it’s merely a different kind of activity. Consent to anal sex is not consent to fingering. Again, this disregards women’s preferences and sexual agency. Not every woman likes oral sex, or vaginal sex, or even sex period, and a preference for third base activities but not first base activities is just as valid as the reverse.

   1.3 It is acceptable for me to put a down payment on your vagina without telling you that’s what I’m doing. It’s unacceptable for you to accept my gifts but not pay the price, which I didn’t tell you about

   This has happened to me, and it is not fun. There were a number of times, particularly in the Army, where a male I thought was my friend would offer to do or buy something from me. It was usually something inexpensive or unimportant. Often, it would be something like a cup of coffee. I assumed he wanted to do something nice for me as a friend; he thought I understood that, when I accepted the coffee, I owed him sex. (I wish someone would phrase it like that—I’d love to negotiate what $1.98 of sex is).

   Then, at some point, when he believed he had put in enough time and money and wanted his return, he would be furious when I refused to pay. To me, there was nothing to pay; if we were entering some kind of financial relationship, I expect to be told the costs up front. Trust me, if I had realized I owed Specialist Creepbag $1.98 of my vagina, I would have bought my own goddamn coffee.

   Interestingly, while men consider themselves blameless in outright manipulating someone, they view female manipulation as shockingly unethical. This leads to the subfallacy of:

   1.3.1 Women who are unclear about their desires, or deliberately manipulate men with sex, are the most evil things in the universe. Conversely, if I lie about my interest in a woman in order to manipulate her with the possibility of a relationship, the woman should have known that that’s just how men are

   Besides blaming women for performing the exact same behaviors, this is interesting because a woman merely not knowing about her own desires is enough for her to behave unethically. So, a woman must perfectly understand her desires at all time and must flawlessly detail those desires to any man with even a passing interest, or she runs the risk of being labeled a slut, cocktease, whore, dyke—take your pick of insults.

   This fallacy also requires that we accept a gendered behavioral binary. To simplify: All women, and only women, perform x behavior; all men and only men perform y behavior; x and y behavior are naturally in conflict. But, if we do believe in the binary, it should be equally ethical for a woman to use sex to manipulate a man into a relationship as it is for a man to use commitment to manipulate a woman for sex. And yet men who believe in the binary believe that women’s use of manipulation is far, far more unethical than his. However, the binary is used to justify men’s use of force and manipulation—since all men want sex without commitment, any woman who has been manipulated that way should have seen it coming, because that’s just how men are. She should have known that a coffee is never just a coffee.

   2. ABOUT WOMEN’S BEHAVIOR

   2.1 Women should bend over backwards to take care of my feelings [CPT Awkward]

   Women are often socialized to be the peacemaker. It’s women’s jobs to smooth over uncomfortable situations; manage other people’s emotions; and make sure people are happy. In turn, men are socialized to outsource their emotions to women, from mothers to girlfriends to female friends.

   This leads men to think that it’s women’s job to take care of and deal with his feelings, no matter what the price to her. Even if he’s merely going through a patch of sadness, the kind he’ll get over in five minutes, a woman should put everything in her life on hold in order to tend to him.

   Outsourcing emotions to other people can also lead men to feel they’re entitled to others behaving in a certain way before them, in the following subfallacy:

   2.1.1. All women should be nice to me, no matter what I do; If I’m “friendly” and “nice,” I’m owed that behavior from others. [Godric]

   One would assume that how one is treated should be in response and proportion to how one behaves. Men often get this when they interact with other men, but can’t for the life of them realize it when they interact with women.

   A harsh but necessary life truth: no one is owed kindness or niceness, and no one is required to be kind or nice to anyone. In particular, women do not perform these behaviors as their tax for existing in the world as female.

   This gets to be particularly problematic when entitlement is paired with creepiness, or men who are abusive. This sort of man believes he is always owed a second chance, no matter what he did—in fact he is owed an endless series of second chances because this time he’s changed, really. He may indeed have called you a backstabbing gold-digging hooker that’s too ugly to strip, but that’s no reason to ignore him! What do you mean, it made you uncomfortable that he grabbed your ass? It wouldn’t kill you to smile!

   This fallacy also ignores how social interaction works. For something to be considered “kind,” the group must agree that it is a kind act. It is not acceptable for any individual to do the diametric opposite of the group definition of kindness and argue that they are in fact being kind. Many men refuse to believe this, however. To them, as long as they think they’re being nice, they cannot and should not be called out on their behaviors. Even if their behavior feels threatening to every woman in their life, those women don’t get to judge his behavior or snub him.

   2.2 Women Are Never Rejected For Dates And They Cannot Know Our Heartbreak [EarlGray]

   2.2 Woman Are Never Turned Down for Sex and Can Have Sex Anytime They Want [Linden]

   I’m actually putting these two together because they’re so similar. In both cases, these fallacies occur because men assume that gender roles are fixed and immutable—men always chase, women always decide. The idea that women can be rejected, and that rejection hurts women, doesn’t register with them because they don’t believe that happens.

   But the truth is women can be rejected, women are turned down for sex. It’s not a special type of sadness that only men can experience. And what’s interesting is men will still believe this even in the face of women specifically telling them otherwise. (Show of hands ladies, how many of you have been rejected by someone you like? My hand is up.)

   This is often used as a manipulative tactic to force women to capitulate to a man’s desires, particularly when combined with 2.1. In essence, “You couldn’t possibly understand my sadness because you’re a woman, and you caused my sadness by rejecting me, so it’s your job to fix my sad feelings (by touching my boner).

   2.3 All Women Are the Same

   This fallacy is caused by men’s refusal to consider women to be human beings. By assuming all women are part of the same hivemind, men can stereotype women and make assumptions about women’s behavior without having to spend time finding out what an individual woman is like.

   It can be broken up into four sub-fallacies

   2.3.1 If one woman did a thing, all women must allow the thing, or that makes all women lying hypocrites [FlyBy]

   This is thinking of women as sub-human in its basest form. This can apply to any female behavior: around sex, dress, social interaction and so on.

   This is the fallacy that causes men to assume that all women want to be mothers, and the ones who say they don’t are lying. This fallacy tends to hit hardest around Valentine’s day: obviously women want roses and chocolate, so if my girlfriend says she doesn’t, she’s trying to trick me to see what I do. (MAYBE I WANT TO JUST STAY HOME, BRANDON.)  It also caused men to assume that I obviously wanted a relationship, even when I told them that in fact I was just in it for casual sex.

   It can be quite surprising how angry men get when women step out of the mold. I suspect it’s because they treat women like video games: if you have the right strategy, then women should be easy. When confronted with the fact that, no, women are as different from each other as men are different from each other, men seem to feel betrayed. This leads men to simply ignoring women’s stated desires, because if she deviates from the mold, she’s obviously wrong.

   2.3.2 If one woman did a stupid or reckless thing, all women are at risk of doing this thing and can’t be trusted [Cactus, sorcharei]

   The oldest and best known example of this is female drivers. Everyone “knows” that women are worse drivers than men, so every time any woman gets into a wreck, this becomes further proof that women as a group can’t be trusted to drive. (This is despite the fact that men get into far more lethal collisions, but let’s not ruin our beautiful stereotyping with facts).

   I saw this in action quite a lot in the military. I once had an NCO tell me he never wanted another female soldier in his squad because she was lazy and didn’t do her job. I remember thinking, “Sergeant, your squad is currently full of lazy, shamming male soldiers. Why did one female’s laziness reflect poorly on all female soldiers, but male soldier’s laziness only reflects on that one male?”

   2.3.3 If a woman doesn’t do a thing that all women do, she appreciates being told she’s “not like other women” [FlyBy]

   I deeply dislike this fallacy. What I think a lot of men don’t realize is that being told I’m not like other women isn’t a compliment, it’s a threat. He’s temporarily elevated me into a social status just below male (never right at, of course not), but the implicit threat is if I do start behaving like other women, he could demote me right back down.

   2.3.4 If most women dislike a thing, but one woman likes or doesn’t mind it, and this thing is unpleasant or distressing to me, all those other women who dislike it are uptight and wrong

   This is the fallacy at work when men get angry about street harassment. This is less a fallacy about stereotyping all women as the same and more about disregarding anything men don’t want to hear (this also applies to other marginalized groups, such as minorities, the LGBT community, etc).

   Because women aren’t a hive mind, there will always be at least some women who don’t find certain things distressing. In the case of street harassment, there have been a handful of women who have spoken out saying they enjoy or don’t mind being catcalled. However, far more women have spoken out saying they find it distressing or terrifying. Under that logic, men shouldn’t catcall, yes? However, men who enjoy catcalling would prefer to listen to the 1% of women who enjoy being catcalled compared to the 99% of women who hate it, because that way they don’t have to stop catcalling.

   If it stopped here, it would be bad enough. Unfortunately, the kind of man who selectively chooses which women to listen to is also the kind of man who will actively derogate the women he ignores. So on top of merely saying “No, I will not stop catcalling because I heard a woman once say she likes it,” he tends also to say “And the only reason you don’t like it is because you hate men/can’t take a compliment/are too full of yourself/don’t get catcalled so you’re jealous.”

   3. ABOUT OWN BEHAVIOR

   3.1 Every interaction with women is flirting unless proven otherwise. [EarlGray]

   There seems to be a biological basis in men’s overestimating women’s sexual interest. However, there is also a huge cultural basis for it as well, so I’m not going to pretend that this is entirely about evolution. Under this fallacy, men will interpret any behavior from a woman as sexual flirting, regardless of what it is.

   I, as a female veteran, can attest to this. Men assumed I wanted to fuck them when I was giving them the Polite Customer Service Smile (which is why I stopped smiling). They jumped at any chance to insert sex into conversations (one went so far as to suggest that I surprise my boyfriend with a threeway with my sister???). It was exhausting because, no matter how little I want to talk about sex, there was no way I could account for all possibilities. Men will make sex jokes out of anything.

   Interestingly, this fallacy can be divided into three sub-fallacies, some of which are contradictory. They are:

   3.1.1 A soft no is not a no

   3.1.2 If she didn’t explicitly say no, how was I supposed to know? It’s not like I can read body language and polite social cues. [EarlGray]

   3.1.3 A woman specifically saying “I’m not interested in you” doesn’t count as lack of interest

   A “soft no” is a refusal couched in less obvious language. “No” is a culturally disfavored response; we try not to simply say no in order not to hurt someone’s feeling. This is very, very common throughout all age, socioeconomic, racial/ethnic and gender groups. For example, if a friend asks me to a movie, and I don’t want to go, I won’t just say no. I’m more likely to say “I can’t, I’m busy” or “I’d love to, except I promised my Mom I would come over.”

   Many men believe that unless a woman specifically says no, she doesn’t really mean no. This is partially because no is inconvenient in men’s attempts to have sex with women, which means the best option is to simply ignore it, and partially due to the belief that women routinely issue “token resistance.” (Token resistance is when women resist sex despite being interested in it, in order to guard themselves from being considered sluts, which is culturally disfavored.) So, men prefer to ignore any form of no, regardless of how it’s phrased.

   This also goes along with men’s professed confusion at signals. This is nothing but a smokescreen to insulate a man from feeling like a creep when he behaves in a creepy way. We routinely issue conflicting or hidden signals, and for most people, interpreting them is not difficult. We know that some euphemisms mean certain things, and while they may appear confusing, their interpretation is very simple. For example, when someone says in a job interview “I learn quickly” or “I’m a team player,” the interviewer rightly interprets this as “I couldn’t come up with a better response so I’m telling you what I think you want to hear.” So, knowing this, men shouldn’t be able to hide behind “How could I possibly understand what a woman says unless she tells me explicitly and with no culturally appropriate padding?” The answer is: the same way you interpret subtle cues in any other walk of life. If you can do it at work, you can do it in a bar.  Since this is an acculturated response, men who believe that they are incapable of reading culturally favored cues are at best being dense, at worst being deliberately malicious.

   Interestingly, despite pretending they don’t understand cultural cues surrounding refusals, men also refuse to hear outright no’s. So a woman can literally say “Go away,” “I don’t want to date you,” or “Get the fuck out of my face, seriously, you’re being creepy” and the dude in question will assume she’s putting up token resistance.

   Basically, this is a no-win situation for women. If they say no, it doesn’t count. If they don’t say no, it doesn’t count.

   3.2 Schrodinger’s douchbag

   Taken from a tweet by Sally Strange, this fallacies is as follows:

       Schrodinger’s douchebag: A guy who says offensive things & decides whether he was joking based upon the reaction of people around him

   Besides being a manipulative cover for offensive jokes, this is also a cover for creepy or inappropriate flirting. This can actually be divided into the subfallacy of (3.2.1) Oh But I Wasn’t Hitting On You Egotistical Much? [manybellsdown]

   In essence, this protects men from paying the consequences of unacceptable behavior, or as an ego-saving device when faced with rejection. It is common for men, when women call them out as flirting or being creepy, to respond with gaslighting. So, if I as a woman point out to a dude that in fact, I know he’s hitting on me, he’s doing it right now, that whole constantly-talking-about-sex thing isn’t subtle at all, he feels humiliated by the fact that he both failed to get me interested and that I called him out on his tricks. So, rather than apologizing for his behavior, it feels safer for him to make me doubt my reality.

   This can take on a number of forms, and I couldn’t possibly list them all. Besides the subfallacy name, above, it could also be “Can’t you take a joke?” “I thought you were cool” “Like anyone would hit on you” “I wasn’t hitting on you, I think of you like a sister” or of course, simply “No I wasn’t.”

   For women who haven’t learned how to stand up to men, this can make her feel unsure of what reality she’s living in. She knows this dude hit on her. He just did it. But often, Schrodinger’s Douchebag behaves in ways that are creepy but subtle. The kind of behavior, in fact, that would make a woman sound crazy if she told her friends about it (or at least, make her afraid she would). So, combined with a flat denial from her creepy creeper, she may wonder if she actually was egotistical, if maybe she did need to just take it as a joke.

   3.3 Lesbians/bi women and women in masculine spaces don’t mind my sexist, dehumanizing jokes and should in fact cheerfully join in [EarlGrey, Not Your GBF]

   I suspect that this arises either from men not understanding how horrible sexist jokes are, or not caring. This seems to be used as a hazing device in male spaces, and in the case of lesbians, being similar to 1.1, above. Because lesbians are “like men,” they should also want to bond the same way as men, by dehumanizing women. The idea that a lesbian might also dislike sexist jokes, since she’s still a woman, doesn’t seem to cross men’s mind.

   In the case of women in masculine spaces, I think men probably know full well that their sexist jokes are unpleasant to sit through and tacit threats. Trust me, my coworkers making joke-not-jokes about raping me did not make me feel better about being in the hyper-masculine space of the military. It’s used as a form of hazing and to keep women in their place—if we can’t force women out of gaming altogether, at least we can make them be quiet, not participate, and constantly remind them that they’re not welcome here.

   In that case, a woman is left with few options: she can leave the space (and her friends and hobby); she can fight back against the jokes and be worn down through attrition; or she can join in, and maybe be accepted as one of the boys. None of these are good options, but the latter option can feel like the least amount of work.

   3.4 It is appropriate for me to have boundaries, and to defend them with violence if they are encroached in any way. It is unacceptable for women to have boundaries, and any form of protecting her boundaries indicates that she is unreasonable and unstable [ona555]

   The “trans panic” defense is legal in 50 states. Basically, if a man finds out that someone is trans, and it freaks him out so much that he beats that person to death, this can be considered legally reasonable. Because everyone knows that if you interact with someone who isn’t a cis woman (and also trans women are really men whose favorite hobby is tricking straight cis boys for sex), you can catch the gay, so you have to assert your masculine boundaries with violence and murder.

   “Heat of the moment” has also been used as a way to mitigate murder. While it is not usually considered reasonable for a woman to murder her husband if she catches him cheating, there have been scores of men who murder their wives and then either aren’t charged with murder at all or are charged with a lesser crime.

   And yet, any boundary setting by women, no matter how banal, and men assume she’s crazy, uptight or unreasonable. A man might feel justified in having very strict standards for how women are allowed to interact with him (50 Shades of Gray is a perfect example of this done horribly, horribly wrong) but be furious if a woman tells him not to call after midnight.

   3.5 The best way to interact with women is to prove that you’re better at things than they are, especially if I can prove they are not good at that thing at all. [Kellis Amberlee, sorcharei]

   This can also include “Women like it when you introduce yourself by attacking something they like” [piny1]. This goes closely with 3.3, especially when the thing is usually considered a masculine thing.

   Sometimes I think men don’t understand, nor care to understand, basic human interaction. Based on all my past friendships, I feel safe in assuming that friendships and relationships blossom best when two people talk about something they enjoy. For example, my best friend graduated last year with a degree in my major, and we spend a lot of time talking about Obscure Psychological Study in Tiny Journal. I did not spend a lot of time talking to Mr. “Yeah, I know you said you can make headshots at 350 meters with an M16, but I managed to tag a target at half a mile with a handgun.” (Partially for lies, partially because fuck you, I’m proud of my shooting.)

   But of course, this has nothing to do with interaction and everything to do with not wanting women to be better than you. It sometimes goes as far as not wanting women to be good at things at all. The idea of women being successful in any capacity that isn’t boner-touching, babies or cooking seems to absolutely terrify a certain kind of men; as if my ability to shoot will strip him of his masculinity and leave him with nothing.

   3.6 I would never hit you (but I totally could!) [embertine]

   This is where the fallacies stop being frustrating and start being terrifying. This is behavioral modification, plain and simple. This is men using fear to control how women in their lives by reminding them he would never rape you or hit you… but he could. If you step out of line. If you do the wrong thing. If you set him off. But as long as you don’t do those things, everything will be fine!

   This is unacceptable in all situations, but it’s particularly unacceptable when men try to control things women have every right to do. Oh, you’re going out for coffee with your ex? Well. Maybe you shouldn’t. You know how I get when you hang with your exes. But I would never hit you.

   CONCLUSION

   I’m sure I don’t have to tell you, my primarily feminist and liberal followers, why all of the above fallacies are awful. I’m mystified that I would have to tell anyone this, because literally, all these problems would disappear instantly if men treated women with kindness and respect and as though we were human beings.

   If there are men who have found my little corner of the internet and had to confront some harsh truths: I’m not at all sorry. These things have made my life worse, through terror, manipulation and assault. I’m not sorry about your sad feelings and I’m not at all sympathetic to them. What I hope you can get from this is we know what the fuck you’re doing and you’re not clever for doing it. Go forth and sin no more.

   Those are all the fallacies I can think of just now. I had originally included another category, fallacies about other men’s behaviors, but I couldn’t think of enough entries to make it worthwhile. If anyone has any suggestions, either for this post or a subsequent post, I’m very interested in hearing them. I know there are fallacies I’ve missed.


warning signs a Strong Female character is only strong for the sake of the male gaze:
• (does something badass) ahahaa yeah i have like eight brothers
• aggressively into the mediocre self-insert white guy lead
• “MAN UP”
• “what are you, a girl?!” to her male co-workers
• super competent but still not the main lead
• the only woman in the group of all men
• has a random changing scene/half nude scene/sex scene even though none of the male characters show that much skin
• wears a form-fitting, impractical suit+high heels while the male characters get practical clothing
• fights the ~sexy~ female villain sidekick while the male lead fights the actual big bad
• has a scene where she is forced to act like a honeypot and walks down the stairs in a gorgeous/tight dress and the male lead is like “ahhhhh”



   So my friends have a little boy, he’s like 2.5 and they’re already teaching him about consent.
   He has this friend at daycare, a little girl, and the other day he wanted to hug her goodbye but she didn’t want him to, and his dad said “No, buddy, not everybody wants hugs and she doesn’t so you have to just wave goodbye.”
   He was sad and confused for a sec but then he was just like “K bye” and waved. Later that night, he tried to pet the cat but she ran away and he was just like “[cat’s name] just wave bye, not hug!”
   Like he got it. Immediately. Teach kids about consent as early as possible. They’ll get it.


(Pictured above, two bling people walking together holding hands, one a black woman, and the other a klansman)
Let’s talk about The Kumbayah Myth.
In the Kumbayah Myth, racism will just stop if everyone just started acting nice to each other, and the only reason we still have racism is that people are silly.
Part of the Kumbayah Myth is the erasure of history, violence and power.  In this falsehood, either no one is really at fault, or, actually, EVERYONE is at fault, so everyone is equally bad.   This actually exists only to make white people feel better and never have to change their behaviors.
Go look at Without Sanctuary and maybe read up on The Reconstruction and come back and tell me it’s all equal and IF ONLY Black people were nicer shit would have been different.
Now, let’s talk about this picture I linked.  It says, “Love is Blind” and has a blind black woman and a blind Klansman walking across the street holding hands….
Well, even the symbolism fails, because:
a) The black woman is basically minding her own business
b) The blind Klansman DRESSED UP AS A KLANSMAN- even blind he still HATES PEOPLE.
c) AND WE’VE JUST EQUATED A BLACK WOMAN, by nature of simply BEING A BLACK WOMAN as equivalent to a murderous terrorist.
Oh.  Ok.  If only those damn Black women would stop being so Black, the KKK wouldn’t HAVE to lynch, murder and burn them in self defense.
You know, tit for tat, right?
But let’s keep going- the only reason, at least, we’d see this picture working is because HE DOESN’T KNOW SHE’S BLACK.  Otherwise, he’d push her into traffic and claim, “I’m blind! I didn’t know what was happening!”
What the world needs is not more hugs.  It needs you white people to stop killing people of color.  It needs for you to stop defending murderers.  It needs for you to stop equating dark skin as violent threat, and therefore, justifiable homicide in self defense.   It needs for you to recognize that YOU, collectively, pull this shit, and no, it is not “equal”, there is no “reverse racism”.
Love is not blind.  Hate is blind- it refuses to see what it does, it demands no one speak of it or say a thing.  And it kills and conveniently forgets a moment later.
Then demands hugs and holding hands and singing kumbayah, and wonders why everyone is so mean to it.





   I think we put too much emphasis on worth when it comes to breakups, like the only reason a relationship ever ends is because one person decided the other wasn’t good enough. It can obviously feel that way regardless of the actual reasons, but there are many reasons that can cause a relationship to just not work anymore.
   Sometimes people’s priorities change, or it’s discovered that they never lined up very well in the first place.
   Sometimes circumstances, like distance or time availability, make maintaining a relationship too difficult.
   Sometimes people realise that they don’t have the emotional resources to handle both the relationship and what’s going on in their life right now (be that work, grief, healing from trauma, dealing with illness or disability, etc.).
   Sometimes people’s relationship styles/emotional needs just don’t line up – one person needs a lot of alone time and the other needs a lot of time with a partner, for example.
   Sometimes people try very hard to interact in a healthy way, but they trigger each other’s past traumas or have conflicting access needs and find themselves falling into dysfunctional patterns.
   Sometimes love is not enough to make a healthy relationship possible. You can care deeply about each other and try to make things work, but discover that a relationship is still not possible. Ending a relationship with someone you love can be very difficult, but sometime’s it’s necessary – it’s not healthy for anyone to ignore their own needs in order to maintain a relationship.
   When a good relationship ends, that doesn’t mean it was a failure. It means that it’s over; it doesn’t erase the love that you shared. Whether or not you can transition to a different kind of relationship with them, the person you cared about will still be part of your universe, and the memories you share with them will still be part of who you are. The time that you had together can still be meaningful.


So this guy hates EVERYONE… except for you. He’s a broody, arrogant misanthrope who just can’t stand people… except for you. You alone are the special, interesting, unique person worth his time, attention, and respect. Everyone else, as far as he’s concerned, is a tedious waste of time because they just don’t get it. They don’t get him!

Sure, his general misanthropy is kind of a character flaw, but it makes you feel sort of special that someone who hates everyone actually likes you. And maybe you can work on those rough edges! He’s nice to you, and that’s what matters, right?
Don’t buy into it, Jane Eyre. This kind of person may make you the exception for awhile, but why? Sure, you’re interesting and unique and you have a lot to offer, but so do some of the people he summarily dismisses. What’s the difference between you and them?
When someone is an asshole to literally everyone but you, he’s not an interesting, brooding soul. He’s an asshole. He wants something from you, so he’s willing to bend a little; he doesn’t think it’s worthwhile to show respect or courtesy to anyone he doesn’t want something from. And all that arrogance doesn’t mean he actually has anything to be arrogant about.
Don’t settle for someone with the personality of a rotten fish. You’re not being let into some exclusive club; you’ve just met an asshole who wants something from you. Pay attention to how a potential partner treats people he doesn’t have to be nice to. It’s a pretty important clue to whether he’s fit company for human beings.




Gandhi was a sexual abuser, an antisemtic and anti black racist, who beat his wife and told women it was their own fault if they were attacked or raped, even going so far as to suggest that the only thing one should do for rape victims is literally murder them (yeah he was so pro life, saying rape survivors should be murdered by their fathers, what a damn icon).  He also denied his wife life-saving penicillin because ‘God would save her if he wanted her alive’ and ‘medicine was evil’  but took quinine when he had malaria.
But sure. He was a moral icon you can look up to! He’s so pro life that he thinks murder is totally justifiable so long as your victim was raped first. Oh, and he genuinely believed women to be literal pieces of property so I mean… and no he wasn’t a ‘product of his time’, he died in 1948. That’s really not that long ago.
 ppl who are like “hm I think the last time I cried was like 2 years ago at my grandpas funeral” are surreal to me like they’re just on a different plane of existence that I cannot achieve like if I’m in the cafeteria and they don’t have cinnamon toast crunch that day I might/will start snifflin



Try being informed instead of just opinionated.



what’s the difference between a dirty bus stop and a lobster with breast implants ?
-one’s a crusty bus station and one’s a busty crustacean




HOW DARE SOMEONE MAKE SOMETHING SO ADORABLE AND FANTASTIC



   what she means:I love this character in so many ways I have a difficult time articulating them.
   what she says:[PTERODACTYL SCREECH]



King Trashbag

   boy oh boy imagine meeting new people and NOT wondering 24/7 for the rest of eternity if they’re making fun of you behind your back

reblog if you are a suburban barbecue dad or a suburban barbecue dad ally



   i am so delighted by cats, i love that we have little bendy animals that climb all over everything and break shit and dart around our homes at top speed and we’re totally cool with it like “ah yes, there it goes again”



Guess you could call him, a ‘smooth operator’. No not really, he’s like the roughest operator, like bumpy sandpaper bad.


Purple Guy the Psychopathic Piano Playing Poltergeist



finally told my parents they’re gay.



rom-coms (romantic communists)



Rest in pieces purple jelly man



You know, an R-rated Deadpool film is well and good, but I kind of want to see Wade show up in one of the regular X-Men films, too.
I want to see him hastily catch himself every time he’s about to say “fuck”, because he knows that the film - being rated PG-13 - is only allowed one F-bomb, and he wants to make it count.
I want to see him throw the ugliest tantrum when, after he spends the whole movie saving up that one allotted “fuck” for the perfect moment, somebody else uses it up before he has a chance.




   i just want a kinda cool best friend who i can be like ‘lets go to a fuckin muSEUM tomorrow’ to and they’ll be like ‘heck yEA’ and we can just hop on a train but then i can just go 2 their house anytime and we can jam and talk about conspiracy theories and bands and bela lugosi and eat pasta




Friendly reminder that anyone born between 1985-1998 didn't get their hogwarts letter because Voldemort's ministry wiped out the record of muggleborns


           based on the assumption that human blood can survive in a vampire for about the same amount of time it can in a human body, vampires would only need to feed three or four times a year (red blood cells live about 110 days on average). this would be if they completely drained all their victims. humans can survive losing up to about 40% of their blood, which means that a vampire pushing their limits with each victim would probably need to feed 12 times a year minimum, so like once a month .
--Hey guess what else happens once a month involving blood
omg no




   The neighbors are watching the Rocky Horror Picture Show downstairs is it weird to go down and ask to watch it with them?
--you need to knock on the door and tell them your car broke down a few miles down the road


   them:so are you a morning person?
   me:no
   them:more of a night person?
   me:no
   them:so what then
   me:i'm not a person at all, i'm more of an abstract concept



   Being 18-25 is like playing a video game where you’ve skipped the tutorial and you’re just sort of running about with no idea how anything works



   This water is VEGAN???? *spits it out* bring me some meat water you punk clown
--The invention of broth




just looked through about 700 werewolf books, good grief.
most seem to fall into two categories:
• werewolf serial killer mysteries
• domineering alpha romances
neither is really what I’m interested in.
here is what I’d want from the werewolf novel of my wildest dreams:
• good relationships, especially friendships between packmates (lone wolves are boring)
• werewolves who like being werewolves. (angsty wolves are boring)
• the practical details of werewolfery: who’s got the bail money for animal control, whether anyone’s microchipped, what you pack in a bag for a night out werewolfing
• the uses of werewolfery: hiring yourselves out as trackers or canine rescue, getting certified as service dogs, spending your free time at the library letting little kids read to a friendly doggie
• female werewolves, and no weird gross hypermasculine alpha stuff going on in werewolf culture
• queer werewolves, and no weird gross heteronormative ‘laws of nature’ stuff going on in werewolf culture
• dog jokes.



Okay, but imagine a medieval adventure fantasy where asexuals sell their services to parties who have to travel past sirens/incubi/succubi in order to fulfill their quests.
Imagine young witches and warlocks going through a final wizardry test where they have to square off against every magical creature they’ve ever learned about, and everyone is really confused as to how that one team just strolled past the sirens/incubi/succubi, and also as to why afterwards they high-fived, said “Aced it!” and then laughed for ten minutes straight.
Imagine a villain dousing a hero with a love potion and then unshackling her, expecting mindless devotion, only to have her then stab him and say “I’m aromantic, actually.”
Imagine an incubus carefully choosing a target and ending up on her couch with a tub of ice cream as she assures him that he is really good at his job and he can’t help it that he happened to pick an ace target.
Imagine an ace sailor who has to tie up his companions in the hold and sail the ship by himself whenever they encounter mermaids, and since it’s just him it’s really slow going, and he spends the entire time griping about allosexuals to the mermaids, who in turn gripe about how sick they are of having to target sailors before the sailors target them.
Imagine a love god trying to set up a pair of aro ace soulmates and putting them in increasingly romantic and/or risque situations, only to pull his hair out in frustration as they ignore or fix every situation and just become better and better friends.
Just like, fantasy asexuals, y’all.



reverse hades/persephone, where the young daughter of summer uses plant magic to ensnare the lord of darkness and keep him prisoner in a beautiful garden above ground. Eventually, enchanted by her cleverness and wild youth he agrees to eat six pomegranate seeds and stay with her for half of every year.
# ID READ THE FUCK OUT OF THAT # HE TRIES BEING ALL IMPOSINGLY MIGHTY AND WRATHFUL WHILE PERSPHONE JUST GOES ON WATERING THE FLOWERS OUTSIDE HIS CAGE # HE PETITIONS TO AT LEAST GET SOME DEATHBELL AND NIGHTSHADE AND ASPHODEL GROWING IN THERE BUT IT’S ALL LOTUSES AND SUNFLOWERS AND APPLES # AND LIKE CORN EVERYWHERE HE FUCKING HATES CORN # THEY COMPROMISE ON POMEGRANATES (x)



   I want a story about a king whose son is prophesied to kill him so the king is like “whatever what am I supposed to do, kill my own kid wtf is wrong with you” so he just raises him as normal, doesn’t even tell him about the prophecy, and instead of some convoluted twist of events that leads to the king’s murder the son grows up and when the king is very old and dying and in excruciating pain the kid is just like alright I'mma put him out of his misery.


    people who aren’t afraid of spiders, how does it feel to be gods among mere mortals



   Last night I had a dream that was about a family of three guys, a father and two sons, all together on a fishing trip and some woman came up and said “Oh, what are your guy’s names?” and the father went “My name’s Dean, and this is my son Bean.” and the woman gestured to the other son questioningly and the dad got the most upset, disappointed look on his face and went “That’s my other son, Sean.” and I’ve never woken up laughing harder in my life.





Until mr right comes alone, meet me MR WRONG! Im married and have erectile dysfunction.



   i had a dream that i met nicki minaj at a sleepover and she told me to be more confident because i’m hot and guys don’t deserve me. best dream ever
-if niki had magic powers of any kind I’m 100% sure she would go into people’s dreams and do exactly this



There is no plan B, only plan 2. Plan B implies that we only have 26.



   Me: *messages a friend at 3am*
   Friend: *responds soon after*
   Me: What the fuck are you doing up go to sleep




   I would like to give thanks to the brave men and women who died a long time ago tasting which plants were edible and which plants were not.


   everyone has said and done problematic things in their lifetime. that’s a result of the society we live in, not necessarily a reflection of their character.
what is a reflection of their character is how they react to being informed of the negativity within their behavior and statements, and whether or not they choose to change their behavior.



“I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations.”



   id take a bullet for u
   not because i like u but because i wanna die



Bless that one person in every group that is like “keep going, I’m listening” and encourages you to finish your story even when everyone else is talking over you.



“~Hitler was human too!~” Of course he fucking was. If he’d been a goat he would have been a lot less effective at propagating genocide.
Let’s remember that being human doesn’t absolve you of your crimes - it makes you accountable for them.



   shout out to everyone who was forced to internalize all their emotions growing up and now have a constant underlying anger that colors every part of their lives bc they never got to learn how to process their feelings




   People accuse tumblr users of excessive black-and-white thinking and not fact-checking and like they’re not wrong but I don’t see tumblr being any more guilty of this than people as a whole so it’s really disingenuous to act as though this flaw is somehow something inherent to or a byproduct of tumblr no it’s just people on tumblr being people
#like 90% of the complaints of people on tumblr boil down to ‘people join social networking site - continue to behave as they always have’



   i hate white men who say they’re ‘playing devil’s advocate’. i’m like: the devil already has lots of advocates, and they all look like you, and this isn’t a fun game.


“Uhm just because I don’t care about basic human rights doesn’t mean you should be so rude. Stop policing me by saying it’s ableist to bully/humiliate/harass disabled and mentally ill people over proof that will never be good enough for me.”—  Shit People Respond With


. a white criminal has a better chance at getting a call back to be hired for a job then a black person with no criminal record. shut the fuck up next time you wanna talk to us about privilege.


   I get scared when I’m showering and I hear noise like what if my family is being murdered out there and I have no time to get dressed I am going to have to fight this person naked; tiddies flying and all dat shit
I had this too for a while, but then I remembered that occasionally ancient Celtic warriors would fight fully nude just to show their opponent how unafraid and fierce they were. I think any home invader would be more than a little taken aback by an angry, flaily, wibbly-wobbly naked person fighting them.


           Me: No one is hiring me
           Adults: you’re just not trying hard enough
           Me: oh yea, sorry about that. Let me apply “harder” this time. I’ll be sure to write my contact info extra “hard” this time. I’ll make sure to touch up my resume and make it hella “hard” this time around too.
       preach
   Adults:  You just need to hit the pavement, knock on some doors, call the hiring manager!
   Every job application ever:  PLEASE NO UNSOLICITED VISITS OR PHONE CALLS.
Fact: Our reception pool forwards the names of people who call unsolicited on to HR, who puts the names on a DO NOT HIRE, CANNOT FOLLOW DIRECTIONS list.


   neurotypical:u gotta like.. get outta your comfort zone, every day, yknow
   me:*is scared while in bed*


#i read a post once that described 90s kids as the generation of nostalgia #because so much technological advancement happened in such a rapid timeframe when we were growing up #that we can clearly remember having technologies that are now obsolete #like going from a corded hugeass phone to a small computer in your pocket just within our formative years is a major thing #and it sparks a nostalgia for our seemly ‘simpler’ childhoods #because so much rapid development makes it seem like it was a lot longer ago than it actually was (x)



When a person decides that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.

“Opposites attract” should be reserved for like “she’s messy and he’s neat!” Not like “she’s
supportive and  he’s a soul-sucking toxic person!”



People like writing about war, but they rarely like writing about the aftermath. And I think that’s a shame, because sometimes writing about the aftermath can be at least as interesting. There’s a lot you can do with what happens after the fighting is done, when people need to rebuild, when they need to find who they are and where they fit in a world that is different than it was when they began.
Write about interpersonal relationships, and how they changed.
Write about how people view themselves and the actions they needed to take.
Write about rebuilding—physically, socially, mentally, emotionally.
Write about the choices people made because they thought they were never going to need to face the consequences.
Write about the emotional toll that war takes, that constant violence takes, that never being able to relax takes.
Write about the physical toll that war takes, about the people who come back missing limbs or neurons.
Write about the people who lost everyone they knew and still have to live with themselves.
Write about the people who lost everything, their homes, their land, the cities, about them finding new places to call home, or not.
Write about the people who are tasked with creating a new world, and the decisions they have to make.
Write about the people who only knew war, who were born after the war started and grew up with only that, who now need to figure out who they are in a world that has no place for them anymore.
Write about the people who were heroes, who know how to be heroes but don’t know how to be people.
Write about the people who weren’t heroes, who were hated, who were disgraced.
Write about the people who didn’t fight in the war because they couldn’t, because they weren’t physically capable or because society said they weren’t suitable.
Write about the people who fought on the losing side, who sacrificed everything and still lost and now need to rebuild with nothing, who are painted as monsters when they need no worse than the side that won.
Write about the trials, for people who committed war crimes, for people who took advantage of what was going on to do what they wanted.
Write about the weapons that are finding their way into the hands of children, cheap and easy to use, because they were left behind when the soldiers packed up and left.
Write about the landmines, the unexploded ordinances, the things that governments forgot were there or just didn’t care.
Write about ten years later, or twenty, or thirty, or one, or six months, or the next day, about what people do when the adrenaline of victory or defeat subsides and they’re left with a world that they no longer understand, that they no longer know, because they spent so long trying to destroy the old world that they forgot that they would have to live in the new one.
Write about the next generation, who grew up with parents who flinched at loud noises and cousins who could remember air raid sirens, who grew up doing drills they didn’t understand because the people who made the drills couldn’t forget that one day they might have been necessary.
Write about the women who stayed behind because they had no choice, about the women who stayed behind because they wanted to, about the women who couldn’t stay behind because there was no behind, because everywhere was a warzone and they were soldiers because everyone was a soldier.
Write about the children who trained for a war that ended before they were old enough to take up arms, where all they know is violence, not peace, how to destroy a city but not how to build one or how to run one.
Write about career soldiers who no longer have a career because the war is over, there’s peace, and so they find work for the highest bidder, for the person most willing to give them a knife or a gun and throw them wherever a little muscle and a lot of violence is needed.
Write about the people who did research on things nobody should ever research, who discovered things they could never speak about, who rationalized what they did as science while knowing it wasn’t.
Write about everyday people coping with everything that happened, with things they saw and things they did and things they knew that they wouldn’t wish on their worst enemy.






   Does anyone else feel like a “filler friend”? Like you just sit there, never contributing to the conversation, and when you do, no one notices. You don’t really have a purpose or do anything and kinda just sit there existing. No one ever invites you ever or asks to do anything with you, and people even make group plans right in front of you and neglect your presence. It’s not that anyone means for this to happen it kinda just does?
--This was me my whole life. I’ve been a filler my whole life.



*cis voice* I was going to acknowledge your basic humanity but then you had to be slightly impolite




dear caretakers of children: stop telling kids “I don’t care who started it!”. you’re teaching children to ignore unequal power balances. that leads to legitimate belief in things like reverse racism, misandry, heterophobia, etc. you’re teaching children that it’s wrong to retaliate when they are wronged. “who started it” is very, very relevant.





what’s really amazing to me is that people are so afraid of body hair on women that even in a shaving commercial they won’t show a hairy leg. they demonstrate the razor by shaving a hairless leg. they show their product being completely useless instead of showing leg hair. it’s just wild



"Suicide is stupid? You know what's stupid?
Hurting someone emotionally so hard that they think suicide is the only answer" - Macklemore



Straight person: I like this cause its so realistic. Gay people don’t just talk about how gay they are all the time. Their sexuality is never brought up just like in real life because whats important is they are people not the gender they love
Actual queer person: I’m so gay guys. Like really really gay do you realise how gay I am? Sometimes I lie awake at night thinking about how fucking gay I am my gay potential is through the roof god save my queer soul



Anxiety is wanting to ask your partner a million questions as to why they’re with you, why they say they care about you, and so on.
Depression is not thinking you’re worth enough to even ask those questions, let alone be with them.
and having both of them is the definition of hell





people think i’m joking when i say we need to stop california’s dominance of animation. it’s a problem.
the key to major success lately seems to be: be born in california or nearby, go to calarts, get into the industry. other options come when you can afford to move to california. the industry is VERY quiet in every other part of the country. i live in new york city, possibly the most famous city in the country, and there is next to no work to be found here. yeah there are outliers like Natasha Allegri and Rebecca Sugar, but the majority are from CA.
Pen Ward? CalArts. Craig McCracken? CalArts. Alex Hirsch? CalArts. Lauren Faust? CalArts. Thurop van Orman. Patrick McHale. Paul Rudish. Chris Buck. Aaron Springer. Butch Hartmann. John Lasseter. Jorge Gutierrez. Pete Browngardt. Arlene Klasky. Genndy Tartakovsy. Rob Renzetti. Tim Burton. JG Quintel.
ALL Calarts alumni.
To make a further point: just about EVERY SINGLE ORIGINAL SHOW running on Cartoon Network right now has a CalArts alum as the showrunner, the only exceptions being Steven Universe and Gumball. Now you might be asking: why’s this a problem?? these people are brilliant. they make great shows, they’re creative geniuses. and i agree. and that’s part of the problem.
we got to see their work out of sheer luck. the luck that they could be born in california OR uproot themselves to move there, that they could afford to go to calarts, where the tuition is over 40,000 a year and growing. that they had friends who could offer them work in california.
consider all the people we’re missing out on. i haven’t even graduated yet and i’m already seeing TONS of my colleagues and peers who had starry eyed dreams of just being a PART of the animation process–doing inbetweens, storyboarding, designing characters–give up when they realized they couldnt get to california.
it is, to say the least, hard to uproot yourself and move across the country with 50,000 dollars in student loans on your back and no job that pays more than minimum wage, with no guaranteed apartment waiting for you.
the most talented animation visionary in the world could be giving up right now, because they were born in pennsylvania and their household makes less than 40,000 a year. CalArts is not the problem. But the fact that CalArts seems to be the ONLY school you can hope to go to make it–and every other option being outliers or exceptions—is a BIG problem. we’re losing tons of potential talent like this and its an issue. the industry needs to branch out, it needs to learn to accomodate people who dont live in LA.
this probably sounds whiny, but i’m tired of seeing amazingly talented people with brilliant ideas give up because they cant move away from everything they know, up to their ears in debt, hoping for the small chance of getting to draw keyframes for nickelodeon.
we need to do better tbh.




“There’s one big difference between the poor and the rich,” Kite says, taking a drag from his cigarette. We are in a pub, at lunch-time. John Kite is always, unless stated otherwise, smoking a fag, in a pub, at lunch-time.
“The rich aren’t evil, as so many of my brothers would tell you. I’ve known rich people – I have played on their yachts – and they are not unkind, or malign, and they do not hate the poor, as many would tell you. And they are not stupid - or at least, not any more than the poor are. Much as I find amusing the idea of a ruling class of honking toffs, unable to put their socks on without Nanny helping them, it is not true. They build banks, and broker deals, and formulate policy, all with perfect competency.
No – the big difference between the rich and the poor is that the rich are blithe. They believe nothing can every really be so bad. They are born with the lovely, velvety coating of blitheness – like lanugo, on a baby – and it is never rubbed off by a bill that can’t be paid; a child that can’t be educated; a home that must be left for a hostel, when the rent becomes too much.
Their lives are the same for generations. There is no social upheaval that will really affect them. If you’re comfortably middle-class, what’s the worst a government policy could do? Ever? Tax you at 90% and leave your bins, unemptied, on the pavement. But you and everyone you know will continue to drink wine – but maybe cheaper – go on holiday – but somewhere nearer – and pay off your mortgage – although maybe later.
Consider, now, then, the poor. What’s the worst a government policy can do to them? It can cancel their operation, with no recourse to private care. It can run down their school – with no escape route to a prep. It can have you out of your house and in a B&B by the end of the year. When the middle classes get passionate about politics, they’re arguing about their treats - their tax-breaks and their investments. When the poor get passionate about politics, they’re fighting for their lives.
Politics will always mean more to the poor. Always. That’s why we strike and march, and despair when our young say they won’t vote. That’s why the poor are seen as more vital, and animalistic. No classical music for us – no walking around National Trust properties, or buying reclaimed flooring. We don’t have nostalgia. We don’t do yesterday. We can’t bare it. We don’t want to be reminded of our past, because it was awful: dying in mines, and slums, without literacy, or the vote. Without dignity. It was all so desperate, then. That’s why the present and the future is for the poor - that’s the place in time for us: surviving now, hoping for better, later. We live now - for our instant, hot, fast treats, to pep us up: sugar, a cigarette, a new fast song on the radio.
You must never, never forget, when you talk to someone poor, that it takes ten times the effort to get anywhere from a bad post-code. It’s a miracle when someone from a bad post-code gets anywhere, son. A miracle they do anything at all.”





Stop criticizing/shaming people who set up donation funds/accounts for themselves. These are individuals who truly need the money, because of circumstances out of their control.

Those circumstances may include structural racism, classism, mental health issues, family issues, lack of employment, poverty, disability, lack of disability services, medical bills, lack of a support system, difficulty attaining employment, being kicked out or evicted, substance abuse, recovering from or attempting to leave an abusive relationship/situation, etc, etc.

Shaming someone for what you call “begging for money,” when really it is just politely raising awareness about an individual’s situation in the hopes that generous people might be able to help them out, is unnecessary and cruel, and reflects poorly on you. It also stigmatizes asking for help and reaching out.

Think about if you were in any of the above circumstances. Would you be shaming then? If you were in a situation in which basic necessities such as food, water, shelter, and medicine were virtually unavailable to you?I don’t think so.


   As a feminist I think women should also be drafted if necessary.
As a feminist I think women should not be given a lighter sentence compared to a man who did the same crime.
As a feminist I think female abusers should be held at the same level as male abusers
As a feminist I think male rape victims are just as equal as female rape victims and deserve the same attention.
As a feminist I believe in complete equality between genders even if that equality isn’t always “beneficial” to me
Feminism=gender equality, not female superiority

So for all you feminists out their who think that all men should die, remember, you are not a feminist.



Bring up feminisim to most men and the firt thing they want to talk about is the right to hit women back. Not equal pay, but their right to beat women.


   I think what bothers me so much about the “feminists are ugly” or “feminists are hairy” or “feminists are lesbian” stereotypes is—
   So fucking what?
   Some of us ARE ugly. Some of us ARE hairy. Some of us ARE lesbians. And it shouldn’t fucking invalidate anything we’re fucking saying to you.
   But you know, if you believed that, if you actually believed that our sexual usefulness to men is irrelevant to the conversation about our basic human rights, you wouldn’t be a fucking misogynist, would you?
If you’re reblogging this and adding conventionally beautiful heterosexual feminists, you’re missing my point entirely.

Our attractiveness and/or availability to men should not determine the validity of our movement.

Stop fighting the “Feminists are ugly lesbians” stereotype by shouting, “No, we’re not!” Fight it by acknowledging that that’s a shitty critique of a movement for people who want our human rights.

The fact that this is even a problem - that our cause is so often critiqued not by discussions about our ideas but about whether or not we are sexually attractive/available to men - is proof that we’re being viewed not as human beings who deserve rights but as sexual objects.

When someone dismisses your cause because they can’t/don’t want to fuck the people in it, your response should not be, “LOOK, SOME OF US ARE FUCKABLE!” It should be, “What a shitty person you are for believing that’s a requirement for us to be worth listening to.”






   All men benefit from women’s reinforced fear of being hurt for saying no. read it again and again
Understand that this applies even to non-sexual situations. Women are more likely to be asked for favors from coworkers. Regular “can you file this for me” / “can you cover my shift” / “can you finish up this paperwork” workplace favors. Men are less likely to return those favors. Women are more likely to be seen as “difficult to work with” if they refuse to do favors when requested. Being viewed as ungenerous has negative social and professional consequences.
So yes, even gay men benefit. All men benefit from women’s reinforced fear of being hurt, not just physically, but also socially and professionally, for saying no to anything at all.




   Me:So when you see the 4 year old boy pull the little girl's hair...
   Students:He likes her!
   Me:Now they are around 11 or 12 and he grabs her arm and wrestles her to the ground even though she calls him a jerk and yells at him to leave her alone.
   Students:That is just how boys are.
   Me:Now they are 18 and he grabs her arm and--
   Students:Oh, that's not okay.
   Me:Really? How would he know? How would she know? How would you know? You just told me that for the first 17 years of these children's lives that you thought it was cute, sweet, and natural for a boy to grab a girl and be rough with her.
   Students:Oh.
   Me:Oh, is right.


           Expert says many more girls have autism than was thought, and failure to diagnose them can lead to misery
       So, basically, what this article is saying is they discovered the way that boys present with autism, went “well that covers 100% of the population surely!” and then didn’t bother figuring out how autism presents in girls.
           Girls slip through the diagnostic net, said Attwood, because they are so good at camouflaging or masking their symptoms. “Boys tend to externalise their problems, while girls learn that, if they’re good, their differences will not be noticed,” he said. “Boys go into attack mode when frustrated, while girls suffer in silence and become passive-aggressive. Girls learn to appease and apologise. They learn to observe people from a distance and imitate them. It is only if you look closely and ask the right questions, you see the terror in their eyes and see that their reactions are a learnt script.”
       WOW.
           Tony Attwood, founder of the first diagnostic and treatment clinic for children and adults with Asperger’s, and author of The Complete Guide to Asperger’s Syndrome, agreed with Gould’s estimation of a 2.5:1 ratio of boys to girls. “The bottom line is that we understand far too little about girls with ASDs because we diagnose autism based on a male conceptualisation of the condition. We need a complete paradigm shift,” he said.
       WE FIGURED OUT HOW TO DIAGNOSE BOYS AND BECAUSE WE FIGURED THAT WOULD WORK FOR EVERYONE BECAUSE BOYS AND GIRLS ARE SO EXACTLY THE SAME (child psychology would DISAGREE WITH YOU IDIOTS) NOW WE’RE REAL SURPRISED THAT WE FUCKED UP.
       This. This is a feminist issue. This is an issue like holy shit there are doctors out there who will deny a female patient who is referred to them because ‘lul girls don’t get austism’. They didn’t think to do any more research because, whatever right? We figured out how to solve the male side of the problem.

       This is so wrong on so many levels.

And it’s not just an issue of “how it presents” in boys vs girls.
Think about it:
A boy is quiet, unsociable, and fixated on a topic that interests him but might be considered unusual. He walks on his toes. He refuses to eat anything but Kix cereal and saltines. He can’t keep a grip on the monkeybars on the playground. Parents will notice. He isn’t “behaving right”, boys are supposed to be outgoing, right? Loud and rambunctious? Interested in everything around them? Eat any food put in front of them? Athletic and strong?
Now think of a girl in the same situation. She walks on her toes- how cute she must be imitating mommy’s high heels, or the ballerina in her favorite movie she watches all day every day without end. She’s quiet. “Wow, so fortunate your little girl is so well behaved, not a brat like my daughter!” She refuses to eat anything but Kix cereal and saltines? She’s just being fussy. Girls are always fussy, didn’t you know? She can’t do math? It’s okay. Girls are bad at math. Right? She can’t keep a grip on the monkeybars but obviously it’s just because girls aren’t good at sports.
My point being, parents not noticing a girl’s Autism is deeply rooted in sexism. And it’s bullshit. Even today my mom acts like there’s “no way” I could be autistic even though my brother (diagnosed at 9yrs when I was 5) and I presented THE EXACT SAME SYMPTOMS!!! FOR OUR ENTIRE CHILDHOOD!!! AND WE STILL DO!!!! My brother got every bit of aid available at the time, IEPs in school, special arrangements at home for his sensory difficulties. You know what I got? I got told to stop being a picky little bitch. To suck it up. Because I’m a girl.






Just remember. There is no such thing as a fake geek girl.
There are only fake geek boys.
Science fiction was invented by a woman.
Specifically a teenage girl. You know, someone who would be a part of the demographic that some of these boys are violently rejecting.



       It just kills me when writers create franchises where like 95% of the speaking roles are male, then get morally offended that all of the popular ships are gay. It’s like, what did they expect?
   #friendly reminder that I once put my statistics degree to good use and did some calculations about ship ratios#and yes considering the gender ratios of characters#the prevalence of gay ships is completely predictable (via sarahtonin42)
#whenever I think “why don’t I ship enough yuri???” I remember#oh right#there’s not nearly enough female characters that interact with eachother enough in most series
actual same, because even if there are ENOUGH female chars, are they as well written/fleshed out/have as large a presence as the male chars? Chances are preeeettty slim.
Also why whenever I find characters I want to cosplay, they are like, all dudes, because, same thing.



                               I’m gonna depress the hell out of all of you. ready? ok go

                               so, that “stop devaluing feminized work post”

                               nice idea and all

                               but the thing is, as soon as a decent number of women enter any field, it becomes “feminized,” and it becomes devalued.

                               as women enter a field in greater number, people become less willing to pay for it, the respect for it drops, and it’s seen as less of a big deal. it’s not about the job- it’s about the number of women in the job.

                               observe what happened with biology. it’s STEM, sure, but anyone in a male-dominated science will sneer at the idea of it being ‘for real,’ nevermind that everyone sure took it more seriously when it was a male dominated field. so has happened with scores of other areas; nursing comes to mind

                               so the thing is, it’s not the work or the job that has to be uplifted and seen as more respectable. it will never work out, until people start seeing women as respectable

                               but there’s a doozy and who the fuck knows if it’s ever happening in my life time

                           “observe what happened with biology. it’s STEM, sure, but anyone in a male-dominated science will sneer at the idea of it being ‘for real,’ nevermind that everyone sure took it more seriously when it was a male dominated field.”

                           Personal anecdote time!  I’m in a biology graduate program.  An acquaintance wanted to introduce some guy to me because his son was thinking about becoming an undergrad science major.  When he found out I was in the biology department, he grinned and said, “Well, I guess that’s kind of related to science.”

                           I gave him what I hope was an icy look and said, “Isn’t it strange how men outside the field started saying that right around the time biology majors shifted from mostly male to mostly female?”

                           The guy got this look on his face like he was about to play the “just a joke” card, and then an older woman who had been standing nearby, talking to someone else, turned to me and said, “The same thing happened with real estate.”  She went on to explain that, over the course of the career, the male-to-female ratio among real estate agents had dropped, and the pay and “prestige factor” of that job dropped along with it.

                       This is also famous for happening to teaching. Keep an eye on medicine over the next fifteen years and watch as it becomes less prestigious and less well-paid.

                   It also happened to secretarial/administrative work - in the 19th century, clerical work was utterly respectable and seen as requiring quite a lot of talent and skill (which it still does!) but then along came the typewriter and women entering the field and HEY PRESTO “she’s just some secretary”

               at my university, chemical engineering, or chem eng, was often referred to as “fem eng” why? because it’s an exact 50/50 ratio of women to men, which clearly makes it too feminine. in the 70s/80s chemical engineering was one of the most important and hardest engineering fields (plastics! pulp and paper! OIL) but now that there are more women in the field it’s considered an easier field, in comparison to other fields.

               for example, i once heard a girl in mech eng list some of the engineering fields in the order she thought was hardest to easiest. you know what it was? electrical, mechanical, chemical. it’s absolutely no surprise that this list is also a handy ordering of fewest women in the field to most women in the field.

               AND, another point! this happens the other way around too. computer science related fields used to be dominated by women, which made it not very important (switchboard operators? yup). once men started taking over the field, well that’s when the big money and prestige came in.

           The field of anthropology, which is becoming female dominated from what I can see, has been determined to be useless by some. (I’ve even had girls in STEM fields tell me I don’t study a “real science” so how’s about that internalized misogyny for ya) When I was majoring in anthropology, Gov. Rick Scott determined that Florida didn’t need any more anthropologists and wanted to reduce funding to programs and increase funding to STEM programs. While not considered a STEM field, anthropologists have contributed to the research behind STEM programs and provide a wide variety of services to Florida alone. A team of anthropologists created a powerpoint “This is Anthropology“ to talk about dozens of programs and services they contribute to in Florida which include healthcare programs, education programs, disaster relief, forensic investigation, environmental programs and conservation efforts, research for fortune 500 businesses, agricultural programs, immigration programs, programs and services for the elderly, etc. I’m also in the field of education, and we’re constantly made out to be overpaid (we’re not) and made out to be incapable of doing our jobs without very strict guidance.

           It’s all very insulting, really. No matter what we study. No matter what we do to earn a living. It will never be good enough.

       It isn’t limited to the US either. In my father’s home country, medicine is mainly pursued by women, and thus, being a doctor isn’t seen as prestigious or respectable.

   I’ve had the same thoughts, especially in regards to bio and anthro.

This is why the supposed “debunking” of the wage gap is utter bullshit. Anti-feminists want to tell you that women make less than men because they “just go into different fields”, completely ignoring the race gap and completely ignoring the fact that “just going into different fields” erases all context and social conditioning regarding WHY women go into different fields and WHY those fields are less paid.




   Patriarchy backfiring on men is not sexism against men.



straight men repress their feelings so severely with their friends and family, and then they come across a girl (whos been socialized to be Empathetic and Nurturing) and they find that they can tell this girl about their Feelings ! everythings great she’s The One ! in reality they just have a normal human bond but actually connecting with anyone is so foreign to men and their emotionally barren male relationships that it seems like something great and wonderful. so now girl is put on a pedestal that she’ll eventually fall from bc she’s human and not just a Male Feelings Receptacle and everyone loses all bc fathers refuse to cry in front of their sons



If a girl fucks the same dick 50 times it doesn’t matter.
If a girl fucks 50 different dicks her vagina has stretched into a black hole.
Fuckboi logic knows no bounds.



“Soon you’ll realize that many people will love the idea of you but will lack the maturity to handle the reality of you.”



i feel like a lot of people fail to realize that for some, loving fictional characters is the closest thing they have to loving themselves. self love can be so, so hard. so when you see someone else on a screen, someone that you can relate to, you pour your heart and soul into loving them. you want to protect them and give them the love you can’t convince yourself you deserve. and maybe that can bring you one step closer to loving yourself.


       not voting isn’t refusing to play the game. You’re in this country, you’re subject to the game whether you like it or not. The only way not to play is to leave, and the vast majority of us don’t have that option. Not voting is playing the game but saying ‘pass’ every time your turn comes up and then wondering why you lost.

   Making young people not vote is actually a tactic used in politics to keep the satus quo. The young vote is always the one for change, so dissuading them from voting at all is actually a political tactic used by the people in charge to keep themselves there.

   Voting is rebellion.

Choosing to not vote (not being able to for pretty much any reason is a different story) does nothing but give your permission to establish a dictatorship.




When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place.



“Why is my sanity paying the price for the mistakes you made?”
“Sometimes a friend with depression will say no to a lot of things and decline all or most of your invitations. This can make you feel like you’re overstepping boundaries and should immediately leave them alone until they reach out to you themselves. Pay attention to this feeling: it’s true that when people keep saying no to things you ask, it’s probably a good idea to stop asking. However, depression can also cause people to say no while wishing they could say yes.

The way to deal with this is not to assume, but to just ask directly: “You’ve said no the past few times I’ve invited you to do something. That’s okay, but I just wanted to check: would you like me to keep inviting you?” I’ve done this before with other people dealing with depression and found that they often respond that they do want me to keep asking, and they hope that one of these days they’ll be able to say yes.”
Gemsona- Carborundum by arcanineryu
Gemsona- Carborundum
Took a break from another project Im working on to finish the Steven Universe cartoon gemsona oc I started months ago.

She's based on my favorite gemstone called Carborundum,
Example of which you can see here
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cutewerewolfgirl Featured By Owner 5 days ago  Student Traditional Artist
hi
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hey
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How your doing?
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pretty good, it's nice to finally have some time to do art
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SharonSLBM Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  New Deviant
Hello
I hope you do not mind i have uploaded a picture of Sexual Offenderman on dA

Sorry my bad english u.u
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arcanineryu Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Student General Artist
awesome! :dummy:

Here, I will put it on his deviantart fan art site
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^u^
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Shadow-Cipher Featured By Owner May 13, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
Hi there~ I look forward to seeing more of your fantastic art. Hopefully we can chat sometime.
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arcanineryu Featured By Owner May 16, 2015  Student General Artist
thanks, and what did you want to talk about?
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I love your creation <3
yourbart is amazing too!
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